fuck I wish people were that helpful on my posts lol.

Stupid thing is weeks ago she was all emotional and said she missed me alot.

which means you can save this by stopping your afc behavior right now.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

I'm not trying to be a dick about this, but you're clearly not getting it. So shut up and listen:

YOU DO NOT NEED HER. I don't care what she looks like in the least. If she's hot, then picture her as the ugliest most disgusting looking piece of ass you've ever seen. Does her behavior still make you want to be around her? Didn't think so. Women only get away with treating men like dirt because we are so visual that we ignore their character flaws.

She SUCKS, okay? She is a WORTHLESS, undeserving bitch. You're the coolest mother fucker out there and you can get any woman you want. So why the hell are you sticking around her? She treats you like shit! She's pulling you into her life for a quick ego boost and then says, "Thanks, asshole!" and moves onto the next guy. When she gets bored she comes back and does the same thing to you over and over again.

Learn your lesson. Otherwise, we'll have to hire a bodyguard to smack you upside the head with his oversized paw every time you even glance at your phone to text her. Like I said, I'm not trying to be a dick about this, I just want you to stop making this situation go on any longer for your sake!

That, by itself, means nothing...absolutely nothing...actions, not words, is what counts...why was she emotional? Her ex would not come inside her or something, it doesn matter, in an emotional moment girls, and guys, will say anything to anybody...do not waste your time...that was weeks ago, do not contact her again, and if she contacts you dont be an asshole, but be cold. Once you are over your "love" for this girl, i mean totally over, and you meet her in person by chance, odds are you might in a better position to fuck her...

I know that is for the best to stay away, for my sanity especially the thing is though we usually get on quite well and I know she has feelings for me. We had a moment months ago where we both were walking at the end of work and were nearly bursting into tears but were just looking/smiling and she was fighting it off the best as she could and couldn't talk properly.

This was after we worked an entire day together and it was real silent, and it was the day after she told me she wants her ex. So yeah she was guilty but since then when I see her she gets emotional, and doesn't really look at me. It's stupid though, she never did alot, we made out a few times...chilled together all the time at workand she rejected a few moves I made on her but I could see her wanting to do something. She used the excuse I was a work colleague, and now I don't work with her I thought I would have a chance.

Her lame phone etiquette is something I've become used to, and I think she has issues because she is actually polite but she just has this hanging up the phone fetish. She started things off when she met me by calling me everyday for two months, and she hang up randomly back then too. This time though I know she was trying to send me a message and even if I do speak with her on the phone it won't lead to anything but I just find the idea not speaking anymore quite really weird.

i cannot believe this thread. some people keep doing the same thing over and over and wonder why they struggle with women. i would offer more advice, but everything i would need to say has already been said. just telling the truth. just forget about this girl for now, down the road she might (big might) come back if she ever had any feelings for you, but you need to restrain yourself on this one

to the op,

you are clearly very young.

so, you are about to get a lesson in wisdom,

from a guy who is old enough to be your father.

ok?

here goes:

girls can be conflicted.

she may at one minute feel attraction for you.

and the next, she may feel repulsion toward you.

what you need to realize is that YOUR BEHAVIOR controls this.

the reason she has displayed interest in your, was because there is some redeeming quality about your personality or your time around her that she really liked.

HOWEVER

the reason she displayed disinterest (and downright disrespect and mocking), was because you started in with needy/obsessive/loserish behavior.

the problem about her behavior, is that it confuses you. because it's "hot" and "cold". the real problem is that YOU are causing it. you need to accept and own your POWER in this situation.

YOU created attraction in this girl.

which you eggregiously overestimated as meaning she was head-over-heels in love with you, which SHE WAS NOT.

YOU destroyed attraction in this girl.

by, again, your needy/obsessive/beta-afc-psycho-creeper behavior!

don't get mad at her for fuck's sake! get mad at yourself!

this shit is your fault.

she is probably the nicest girl on Earth, and honestly, had you played your cards right, you would probably be fucking her right now...doggie style...long and hard...giving her multiple orgasms...slapping her ass...calling her a dirty little slut...whilst she begged you to blow your load inside her.

unfortunately, you will never know.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

GREAT post above.