Anyone else miss pick up since being in a relationship? I really don't want to give it up. It's not so much just the f-closing girls it's the game itself. I've started to really enjoy the interactions, gauging reactions, testing out new ideas, trying something crazy and then seeing a result. It's a buzz.

Saturday night I'm out with my buddy, a chilled night, both of us just catching up rather than going out on the pull. I go to the toilet, come back and a hot blonde has taken my chair and is half chatting to my mate. I tell her off for taking my chair, ask her what's she going to do for me in return, and throw in a bit of kino. So straight into PU. I bring on talk about her marrying to stay in the country (Aussie), and get her to propose to me. After her cigarette she leaves to chat with her friends.

We finish our drinks go to the bar but decide to head back to my mates place. I spotted her on the way out. I tell my mate to wait her and double back. I go to the bar just behind her. She is sitting down with her back to me and there is a guy next to her making moves. I pause for a bit, waiting for a break in conversation. I question what I am about to do. But then I think nothing to loose, walk up behind her and put my hands on her shoulder. I turn her round, take her hand and stand her up, pulling her towards me. I tell her I think she's hot. Our lips touch as if by accident. The guy who was hitting on her asks her if she knows me and if she's ok. She instantly says yes and pushes him back. She gives me her number, we kiss again properly. I say I am going. She asks why and asks me to stay. I turn round and walk out the bar with a crazy smile on my face and a adrenalin surge.

I was cocky, a bit of a dick, and crazy confident. I have a girl in my life so I really didn't care how that went. I wasn't trying to gain anything. I was just having fun. It may be childish but it made me feel awesome to blow off that other chump who was hitting on her by just going in super direct. The look on his face was priceless. As was his clutching at straws comment afterwards that he was her brother lol. Is this just ego-massage? Is that a problem?

But in an exclusive relationship this all has to stop. That feels like a real problem for me. I don't want an open relationship with my girl so it is exclusive or call it off. But I am not going to give up this girl for a bit some PU. Still I'm going to miss it. It became my favourite game. One I could play any time of the day. It made simple things like travelling from A-B an adventure. Until I am a player again I shall miss you.

Ahh human nature. We all want what we don't have. If your girl dumped you you would race back hear to ask how to win her back.

If you need women for happiness than that is not an optimal situation.

Try focusing on your career and hobbies. If you're still not happy then time to break up with her - this will be a lot painless then if she dumps you.

Too true; the grass is indeed always greener.
Agreed. The point I was trying to make is that 'the game' and pick up are ends in themselves. The understanding of the social dynamics, the learning, the improving of your ability to read woman and judge situations, testing ideas, calibrating. Completely outside of getting with girls, these are fun and interesting and intriguing to play with.
My career and hobbies have soared since I met her
Note: This event was what lead to us being exclusive. Before that night we hadn't defined out relationship, hence no cheating. I told her about it, she asked if I was going to go on a date with this bar girl which I don't feel inclined to do. That's like going back to square one.