I think that this just stems from my own petty insecurity here, but a few other opinions can't hurt. I've been with my girlfriend for a year and a half or so, and just recently she has started hanging out with this other guy. He is known for being super sleazy and I simply don't like her spending time with him, especially when if it happens more than once a week. We got at each others throats about it a bit just before and I'm curious as to how you guys would handle it? Am I right in saying I don't want her hanging out with him? Or am I just untrusting and hurting the relationship myself? Cheers!

It never helps to lose your cool and have an argument about the other guy.. That projects jealousy and insecurity.

There's really only one way to think about this if you want to fix the problem.

She's just hanging out with a friend. Don't get jealous, stay positive and certainly don't have arguments about it. She may even expect or want you to get upset so she can keep building a rational to choose his company over yours. Often, the way to overcome jealousy is to do exactly the opposite of what your emotions want you to do. Encourage her to hang with the guy. Find a constructive fun thing to do while she's with him. Be positive and sincere. Don't fall into the trap of more arguments.

Be better than that guy. Surprise her with flowers (preferably not after an argument cause then it will just seem like you are groveling.) Buy her something sexy. Buy her something you know she'll appreciate.. think about it and make it total surprise. Make her laugh!

That's all I got!

Do you know this guy?

Does she invite you to hang out with him?

If the answer is both NO, your GF is behaving completely inappropriate and you SHOULD call her out on it.

don't give her flowers and that kind of shit... because you will value her more when you invest in her. You will become more jealous when she's hanging around with this guy.

game other woman...get rid of that jealous insecure shit...scarcity causes insecurity. your girlfriend can see anyone anytime .. she's not your property.

give her flowers and shit when you got rid of these insecure feelings

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i'd freeze her out and get on with life.

she's obviously looking for you to justify her fucking him...in advance.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

exactly just move on and be like, "oh who is that guy you hangout with?..... oh cool he is actually a very nice guy. he acts kindda weird though." this phsycologically says "yea he is super awesome but i am better" in a stealthy way.

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