Ok guys, I'm kind of having MLTR's, at the minute I've got 2 and could make it 3 by the end of the week, if I wanted and I will, beause I like her the most out of the other two, plus she doesn't know the other two

So, this is my problem, both of them kind of know each other, but they don't know that I'm with both of them and I'm afraid that if they find out, some of my friends will think that I'm an asshole, so should I break it off with one of them or just try and keep it on the down low, I'm not sure what to do, it''s sooo confusing because I've never been in this situation before, and I will definately make the third girl an MLTR, so any advice would be greatly appreciated

P.S. I found out one of the MLTR's hurt herself when her last boyfriend, broke up with her, so if I break it off with her what should I say

Thank You In Advance Guys

Peace,

Troyden

You are an asshole. Break up with them all and be single (or keep the third one if you must).

Kind of harsh there dude

Do you not like MLTR's or something ??

I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, I want all of them to be happy, because I really like them all, it's just I like the other two more as friends rather than girlfriends,

So don't worry man, I'll do what you say, I'll break up with them, let them down easy and keep the third one, but what you did say was quite harsh, and lots of people have MLTR's anyway, I just need to ask have you ever had MLTR's ?

Peace,

Troyden

you are a liar.

you are committing to these girls and they believe you are exclusive.

and you know that isn't the case.

why can't you just be a man and tell them you don't want to be exclusive.

why the need to lie?

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Ok guys, I see where you are all coming from, and I'll do the right thing, because I feel like an ass, and I now know what I'm doing is morally wrong, I'll let these girls know, I don't want to be exclusive, and that I want to be just friends

I also so MLTR's are not to be recommended, they are not all that good

Thanks Guys,

Peace,

Troyden

Wait a second. Do these girls only think or hope that you are exclusive, or do they "know" that you are exclusive because you told them so (by lying)? There is nothing wrong with what you're doing if AND ONLY IF you have never insinuated that you are exclusive with any of them.

That is the point: you can do anything you want as long as you are honest with the people you are with and they agree with it. You can manage those expectations better by being more upfront about it, but as long as you never mislead someone into believing you're exclusive I don't really see the problem.

Thoughts?

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I never told any of them that we would be exclusive, nothing like that was ever mentioned, but I can tell that they want to be exclusive, both my MLTR's know about each other now, and they don't seem to care, I let one of them go but, I'm still getting tons of IOI's from each of them, and I have built so much attraction, comfort and rapport with these two, and also with the third one who I will definately be going for

Thanks Wal, maybe MLTR's are not all that bad, I just need to know how to handle them more, and now I know how to handle them a little better,

Thanks,

Peace,

Troyden

Dude. You have to have your own standards. I'm not saying that what you're doing is right or wrong. But you can't change your opinion on such a thing as going out with multiple women in every other post depending on last reply.

Decide on what your boundaries are on this matter and stick to them.

This is 100% Beta behavior. "How should I feel about this?"

Lying is only one form of deception.

There are also:

- ommission
- obfuscation
- implication
- fact stacking
- misrepresentation
- etc

You don't have to "lie" to be dishonest. You just have to see someone not knowing the truth, and choose not to clear it up.

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Mack, your face makes me wanna vomit.

See, now I'm not omitting anything!

Just kidding of course! I'm sure you're a very handsome guy. But is it really necessary to be completely honest? Would I be deceiving you if I didn't tell you that you're ugly? There is a lot of gray area here. And, of course, you're right in some way. If he had lead them to believe they were exclusive by, for example, not correcting them if they had assumed it, then yes, that is deceptive by omission. But if the subject never comes up, I do not think it is deceptive to ignore it altogether.

Still... a real man sets up those expectations right away, so it doesn't become an issue because the girl knows what she is getting. I just enjoy playing devil's advocate.

Sorry to obfuscate the thread.

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