Hey dudes,

I Would massively appreciate any advice and help here.

A few months ago, the beginning of may, I picked up and started dating my girlfriend. Everything went great.

About a month and half into the relationship we were flying high and saying shit like soul mates and all that. We both believed it too.

Then we hit a very rough patch. One day her dad got a random phone call from someone saying they had inside info on me and told him a bunch of shit that was fake. Long story short, it put me on the defensive, I was trying hard to speak with her dad so we could rectify the situation. We couldn't keep going out the way it was because she was tainted by what they told her and she started not trusting me. At a certain point I even got so fed up and put her on a week break because I couldn't take it anymore. During this whole scenario I demonstrate a whole bunch of lower value because I was basically on defensive and like "chasing" to clear everything up with her parents.

We suffered alot of trauma this last few weeks. Now, it seems like she is generally disintersted. We go out but it's not the same and she isn't as warm as she used to be. She gives me IODs all over the place, no more kisses and unappreciative.

I didn't know how to play it. Basically I felt like the attraction was gone, and so we need to start there. Basically of anyone knows Mystery Method, i figured it's back to A2 and A3. We went out tonight and I started playfully nagging her here and there, I was very confident, more than usual. I think it backfired because she told me that she feels like I have alot of resentment and attitude towards her tonight.

FUCK.

What do I do? How do we rekindle this? The first time around everything went textbook perfect and now we are stuck. How do I "re-attract her". I am a high value guy and I have everything going for me in life, honestly, I've been thinking to just dump her because I feel like she doesn't appreciate me and I dont want to waste time and money on her if she's gonna keep acting like this.

I don't want to just dump her though because of we went through all that and she's still here it means she wants to be here. I want her to be too.

Thoughts?

-R

Sounds like you guys have fallen out of lust. This is when the real relationship begins. Majority of the time the same attraction tactics you used when getting her isn't going to work the second time. If you really want to keep this girl I suggest sitting her down and talking to her about it. Find out if she even wants to make it work and if she'll put action behind it. Communication is key to any healthy relationship. It doesn't sound like your communication is to great if she thinks your dad knows you better than she does which is what started it all. It just takes work from both parties. Hope this helps, good luck!

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It wasn't even lust. In the beginning, although we didn't get super physical right off the bat, it was magic, we really connected with each other. The situation knocked the wind out of our sails and over that spam she became disinterested. She also saw character flaws which poked out and she started getting doubts about everything. How do I address that?

Like i said it's lust. Lust is a feeling, love is a decision. "magical" = feeling. Love is knowing your flaws but making a decision to work it out reguardless. Like I said above talk to her see what she wants to do. If she doesn't wanna make it work just move on.

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okay so, she decided that "we need time apart" which i agreed to because i wasn't gonna beg like a little girl. obviously time apart means breaking up for good, just in a nicer way of saying it.

the questions is this: i'm not like head over heels in love or desperately want her back, but i do want her back. why? because shes a really good person and ive met tons of people in my life and gotten great girls, but none had a pure heart like hers.

i also realized when her interest started to wane. on the 4th of july, we had a little incident where i got irritated while waiting 45 minutes for her sister to get dressed to join us for the day (she wasnt even in the original plans) and sort of raised my voice in frustration. that led to a little argument and later that night when we spoke about it i suggested we take a week break. during that week i didnt call or text her really, although she did me and she said yesterday that that whole break thing was weird and she felt like i dont care. thats where she started losing interest.

what can i do now? i dont think like today is a good day to do something, but i think i should at least try one more time.

R

start over from step one.

build attraction.

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The truth is I went out with her on sat night before broke up on sunday. I tried from step 1 like nagging her and all that. It backfired Biggins and she asked why I was having an attitude.

I got a juicy tip though. She told her cousin who is my good friend that she wanted to break because we just weren't having fun. I guess it's true, girls just wanna have fun.

Anyway after we broke up yesterday at around 4pm, she texted me this at 1am:
"I had a night full of jokes and laughs. And there is still something nagging me." "I don't like life's lemons. Unless they come with vodka. And even then I still don't love it so much." "Might be noteworthy that not my whole day consisted of laughs."

Her cousin told me he got the impression from her that she regrets it and he thinks she thinks she made a mistake. I know she wants to have fun. I think this can be fixed. Do I really want to reach out to her and convey this or do I need to wait for her?

Please advise,

R