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Sometimes when you come to a tough decision in life, the easy choice is not always the best choice. You can either navigate through the shortcut, or you can face it head on, like a man.
My advice: tell her what happened. By choosing the hard path, you will learn so much about humility, dignity, and honor, and regardless of your girl's reaction, you will both be better off with the truth expressed.
(If you don't tell her, you'll always be the coward, at least in your own mind--but don't beat yourself up about this; you made a mistake, and your guilt demonstrates that you aren't a psychopath, which is something to be happy about
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i'm with wal on this.
i prefer honestly all the time. no matter what. i always want to know. even if it destroys my world, i still want to know. and i prefer to be 100% honest with people always, even when it's not convenient.
not all people are this way...
it's always intrigued me when people say "as long as he doesn't do it again, didn't really love her, and it really sorry and loves me...then i wouldn't want to know"
to me, that is like living a lie. the thought of living a lie makes me sick to my stomach.
That's you.
Yes, honesty first, but if its going to hurt her, she doesn't need to know. What she doesn't know can't hurt her.
You will forget about it in time, don't give it much attention.
Or if all else fails, you already cheated, you couldn't be loyal to her. Keep loyal to your feelings, whatever feels right, listen to it.
Though, sometimes doing the right thing will hurt people, which is this case.
Think about it, but don't think it too much. Either tell her, or just let it fade into the back of your mind, and let it stay there.
If you want to keep her, don't tell her and learn to deal with your guilt, it'll pass. But if it's just about yer guilt...there's no reason to destroy her world to make you feel better about yourself.
CHAT