Okay, so this girl is extremely attracted to me, her friends will forward texts from her that are all like "I REALLY like him, a lotttt more than i thought, im kinda whipped , but i dont want to get hurt again" so i talked to her to figure out why she got hurt and earlier this year, before summer, i told her i loved her, she said that back to me and then i was like i really want to kiss you (i know afc, but i kinda wasnt worried) so she says no since there was some teacher and shit.... so then since i thought she was bullshitting about why not i hooked up with an ex girlfriend at a pool party which i guess did not make oneitis (girl i said i love you too) happy. So, i talked to her because truthfully the reason i hooked up with the ex was to get over this girl. but it didnt work. So, we talk on the phone for 3 hours straight etc. evedrythings great theres a "spark" etc. but when i talked to her shes afraid that shes just going to be a hook up girl as im going to an all boys school, her an all girls school. So theres a lack of trust because im a "player" and tend to break girls hearts. I have other girls set up for when i get back home after the summer, so its not that im desperate, i really like her...and i was about to tell her that but that would nto help much with the player thing.... how to build trust?

Well.. you know the phases, you have attraction, next is to build comfort...

I see two choices, other might add more to it...

1 - Bring her to casual dates, like going to the mall to shop, going to the beach, etc. Don't do parties or clubs or movies, you need to build comfort, get her to talk emotionally.

Go on those dates at random times, keep them medium length, not too short (would make you look like a player), not too long (you'd lose your alphaness)

Ask her about her childhood dreams, her future, mention hypothetical future dates (nothing too fancy, like talk about a new restaurant that just opened, new movie that came out, etc). Add value to what she's mentioning, don't just be mmmk mmmk mmkk that's cool, actually maintain a conversation. Also, don't drop all the questions in the first date, go slowly, amongst the first few dates.

Check out comfort routines too if you want canned material (the cube, ring finger, etc...)

This might take a while, but chances are if she's scared, you'll build more comfort with her if you proceed slowly. Also, you can keep seeing other girls sparingly in between dates.

What you want to do is to get into her mind whenever she thinks about those things/places/ideas, you get the point.

2 - Do #1, but make it quick instant dates... bounce her around locations quickly, go for a coffee, when over, walk on the streets, after a while go into a pub, have a drink, go out again, drive around town a bit, go into a pizza shop, eat, go out, go see a movie/fireworks/museum/we is fun in your area.

This might be faster, you're basically trying to get her to have memories of you in all those places which will seem like it happened over a longer period of time. Though if she really thinks your a player (like really heavy), this will not lower her shield as well as seeing her casually over a longer period of time.

Hope this helps.

Cheers!

Since you have other girls waiting in line, you really should just go for broke. The next time she starts talking about how she loves you but doesnt trust you, make her choose. Be with you or FriendZone her (then flirt with her friends)...Tell her you dont like this "maybe" crap. Spending all that time trying to convince her makes you loose ground. Why? Because she`s not stupid, she knows youre "trying to convince" her. So dont try to scam her into dating you, just make her choose. And be a man and be able to deal with whatever she chooses.

When I like a girl I give them a call at the end of the day just to have a chat. They usually start liking me.