UPDATE:

I had a post about a month ago about a girl that I started gaming online. As you may know I have developed a pretty solid online game routine which I now use every time I want to number close a girl on the net. I used this on an honest to god HB9 about three weeks ago, and like I said earlier, she really stood out to me because the routine hardly worked on her! I was so shocked. She has some serious game, and she spits it on me, instead of me spitting on her. I met her about a week ago, and we spent two nights in a hotel together (no need for details). We had an amazing time and built a real emotional connection. We have been talking every since and are getting fairly close to one another.

THE PROBLEM:

I feel like I want to have a relationship with her. However, relationships aren't really my thing. I like to be spontaneous and move from one girl to another. But I think I want to give this long term thing a shot, mainly just because I like this girl a whole lot. (Almost to the point of going AFC sometimes.) I constantly neg her and have established an alpha dominance in the relationship, which is good, but I'm worried that once we start dating the alphaness will have to give way to make room for romance (thus causing her attraction for me to deminish.) Not sure what to do about that.

Tomorrow I'm making the drive to go see her (an hour and a half away), but I told her I'm going to be in town for an audition anyway (lie) just to not seem like I'm going out of my way to see her. Honestly, I want to make her my official girl tomorrow. I'm planning to make the way I ask her to be my girlfriend spontaneous and different, as well as cocky-funny.

Here's what I plan to say:

Once we have shared a good solid moment, compliment her, then act like I just got an idea and say, "what would you say if I told you we were dating?" I think that would be a pretty solid and unforgettable way to ask.

So do you guys think I should go for the relationship, and risk losing attraction, or just to play it safe? And if you think I should "date" her, what's your thoughts on my method of "asking"? Thanks for the input!

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I think as a guy you shouldn't bring up this issue and wait untill she gives a signal she's ready for it.

Mostly, from time to time (when they are drunk often) they will hint to it and say something like 'but, how do you see eachother?'

ignore it and then later you can come up with your question to commit.


just my opinion.

Maybe I've misread the post, but it looks like you haven't actually met her in person yet. I would definitely wait. People are different online than in person, and in any case, it is way too soon to move into something like that without having some face to face connection first.

@The FreshPrince yeah we've definitely met. In the "UPDATE" section I described our meeting a little over a week ago. But I did not get you guys' posts until now so I have already done the deed and popped the question. I said, "what would you say if I told you we were dating?" and she said "what would you say if I told you I wasn't ready for a relationship?"

Idk but I think I may have fucked up big time here. I'll write about this in another post, but what the hell do I do now guys!?

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