The girl im consistently seeing is into girls. We live in a small but very sexually open community. She has often expressed her willingness to participate in a 3 way with other girls we both know and I have on several occasions witnessed her intensely kissing other women. When I express my interest in it she says she will pursue it and see what they say. Its been over 10 weeks of this and still no progress. Should I try to talk to these other women and see if they would be up for it or is it best to find new ways to encourage my femal companion to encourage her friends as a girl might best respond to another girl's request? Any suggestions very much appreciated. Opportunities not embraced are experiences missed, and as the old saying goes fortune favors the bold.

Be open about the fact that you want it, and have her pick up/approach the girl.

Two girls, that's going to take chemistry, so that's why you want the girls to be the initiative. While you relax and let them build.

Also, it's good if you let them start a little without you.

This you can do by e.g. having some drinks at your place, all parties sorta knows what's coming, and have the girls go check out the bed-room together, while you excuse yourself to making all of you new drinks.

That way you get to hang back, they get started, you come in with the drinks after some minutes, and you can gently begin to introduce yourself.


Just be gentle, this is not the same sort of dominant power-play that one-on-one sex can be. So you'll have to hang back, and be aware of the signals they send.



hope this helps.

Friends are bad news and they put too much pressure on the situation. Go out tandem to the bar/club to find a girl to join in or look to an acquaintance.

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Update... Just followed my own advice, turned out great.

So I'll stick with the "Let the Girls do the picking up, and make sure you don't fuck it up"-route.
Path of least resistance and all that.

I don't consider myself bi but I've always been slightly attracted to other women (I've been married for 3 years and I'm crazy about my husband) and we recently had our first threeway with a girl! It was smokin' HOT. My husband and I went out to a club together, just the 2 of us, and met a lovely receptive woman that we were both attracted to. I talked to her on the phone the next day, and the following evening was the hook-up night (I posted details in a Lay Report, "My First Threesome!") lol.

Was it worth it? Omg yes! We all had such a great time! We like the girl so much (she's only 22 and very sweet and sexy) that we got her together with a slightly-awkward but very nice friend of ours (he's in the military with my husband). They hit it off and have gone out a few times already.

Sat. night we went to a private swinger's club in Honolulu, met lots of cool people and had a great time but no real connection with anyone which was ok. Our deal is that we can both get with a woman (if we're together) but only minimum contact for me with other men, which I'm totally fine with.

Good luck, I hope you both enjoy it as much as we did