1. She won't answer her phone

2. She never initiates a conversation on IM even though she is online on her iphone all the time.

3. If I initiate the convo I can see the msg has been 'read' but she ignores it and either doesn't reply at all or replies hours later with a cold, one word answer.

4. she changed her fb status to single but tells me we're still together.

5. I have been away for 2 months, I have been home a week and she hasn't tried to see me. When I pushed her she said 'maybe I can see you Friday' it's now thursday night and she hasn't arranged anything. I said on MSN 'so am I coming to see you tomorrow?' And she completely ignored me even though she is online and is actively posting on fb etc.

6. She hasn't told me she loves me or said a single affectionate thing to me in about a month.

Thing that I don't get is she hasn't dumped me. She clearly doesn't like me anymore but when I confront her she says we are still together. WTF?

Is it because I went away for 2 months? If I freeze her out it might just help her forget me more. I feel like if I could just get her to meet up with me she will fall for me again. When I met her she was SO into me. Please help me.

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I was in a similar situation as you before, my gf never initiate me as well and we have been together for nearly 3 months now, she never say she love me or miss me. Although we live together but shes a Cabin Crew and flying away for 3 days a week. Everytime shes away, she seems disappear and never initiate me.

After reading a lot of advise from here, I start to set her challenges and stop giving her whatever she want. If she dont want contact, I simply wont contact her so often and just wait her to contact me. Focus on my own life rather than thinking her all the time. I think girls like men which focus on their things rather than focus on them.
Correct me if this is wrong

She's now more into this relationship now and start to contact me more often.

Although I am still new to this, but I hope my experience help.

Arpay is right.

Cut contacts. Do some other things in the meantime. She'll start wondering what's up with you.

Now what to do is a good question.

- Pick up a new hobbie.
- Go out with friends and do something fun (mini golf, bowling, billard, etc.)
- Flirt with other women (I did say flirt, not date)

If you're any way like me, you don't have many hobbies and not really attracted to any other hobbies either. You don't have many single friends so they are most of the time busy or when you see them, you feel like the 3rd wheel. You probably don't want to flirt with other women either because you'd feel like cheating or w/e.

You've got to fill your free time with something though, simply waiting for a phone call is horrible, both for your mind (as you've realised) but also for your relationship. A good suggestion is to get fit.

I'm not saying hit the gym, it's expensive and not really needed unless you really want to. Simply start going outside for a jog (or start by walking if you can't jog yet). Go to a park, start doing push-ups, pull-ups, crunches (basic simple stuff). Push yourself to your limit, and surpass it.

How would that help you? Well for one, women love men you are hard workers, who won't quit. By pushing yourself past your limits you'll be doing exactly that (don't brag to your GF or any other HB about it though). Also, by being more fit, you'll be more attractive to women. You'll look like a prize (or a trophy) to your girlfriend and she'll want to keep that.

What I've come to realize (even though it's been mentionned a bagiolion times on this board) is that a this quote by Francois de La Rochefoucauld couldn't be more true.

Absence diminishes mediocre passions and increases great ones, as the wind extinguishes candles and fans fires.

This means that if she's no longer into you, your relationship is bound to die; if you cling on to her, she'll call it quits; and if you step back, she might not try to pull you back in. BUT if she's still into you, stepping back for a while (no contact) will make her much more attracted.

Cheers!

wait ... the op is a woman ... you are lesbian ?

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That's not a relationship.


Either move on, or wait until she officially does.

dump.her.ass.

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Get rid of her. Really not worth your time. Especially since your surrounded by a database of knowledge about how to get women.

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Sorry. It's clear as day she's not into it. Time to move on.

Chances are if you do, she'll probably want to get more involved, but IMO, it just isn't worth it. Her base emotions just aren't there for you.

kick her out ASAP, actually SHE kicked you out already.