Quick backstory on my girlfriend: She was a virgin before me but had an ex who cheated on her. When i asked her if she had had an orgasm before with him she said shes pretty sure she has. He was going down on her "it felt good and i had shivers all over my body"..

If she had an orgasm would she actually know? seems to me like she was close but didnt quite make it.



Anyway to the main point: So me and my girlfriend were having sex last week and she stopped me because it "feels to good". I asked her why did she stop me then and she said because shes scared because shes not sure what its meant to feel like and isnt sure if its feeling good or not. She feels like "she needs to pee" but she just went to the toilet. Ive heard needing to pee means shes getting close to a g spot orgasm but the feeling doesnt go away for her she just gets tighter in the stomach. I really want to make her cum but she doesnt want me to because she thinks she cant and its just a waste of time. So i stop trying to give her g spot orgasm and went down on her and she stopped me again!?. Im not sure if shes hiding something from me or is just generally scared of what might happen?

Anyway id really like some questions answered about girls if anyone has the answers:

Does sex feel good for girls as soon as you start having sex? or is it like guys how it feels like nothing for a bit but eventually gets good more towards the end? She moans but apparently thats just involuntary and she cant help it.

Do girls get shivers all over their body when they orgasm?

Will she definatly know when she has an orgasm?

if she feels like she needs to pee or uncomfortable will that feeling eventually dissapear if we keep going?

is stomach tightness and needing to pee a normal feeling to have during sex?


Can someone explain the feelings you get when girls know they're on the way to an orgasm? what feelings she might have or what things might happen to her body? (shivers, muscle twitching etc.)

Hopefully someone has the answers out there i'd really like to start making her feel good so its not so unfair on her ..

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THE YAGERMEISTER!!!

she's probably a monster-squirter!

she's holding back because you are doing a good job and she knows she is getting close to blowing a lady-load all over your face!

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Yeah, the feeling of needing to pee can come from G Spot stimulation. She probably is a squirter, like Mack said and she's embarrassed about it, or worried that shes actually going to pee.

Talk it over with her, reassure her that you want her to have an orgasm, and that it's completely normal for her to feel like shes going to pee, you should probably also talk about squirting, and how it's not urine that comes out, but in fact a clear liquid similar to Semen, tell her how you want to make her cum, and how happy it'll make you, etc..

Don't focus on g-spot orgasms. They are much harder to give than clitoral stimulation orgasms and not all women can have g spot orgasms anyway.

I would ask her if she masturbates. If she does then ask her to show you how she touches herself while doing it. Most likely a circle motion on the clitoral region. Copying that motion is usually a good idea and will lead her to an orgasm.

If she doesn't masturbate I would still suggest trying to give her a clitoral orgasm rather than a g-spot orgasm...

Find a book called She Comes First, it should be available to Text removed by moderator for violation of the forum rules. Your next violation may result in a ban from the forum. . It's about oral sex as the main event for your girl. One of the biggest tenants is reducing her feelings of self consciousness and allowing her to relax. If she ever feels pressured to come, is worried about peeing, anything that causes any stress, it will be much harder for her to orgasm. She needs to know that she has all the time in the world and she can't do anything wrong while you give her head.

Okay first your questions:

"If she had an orgasm would she actually know? Seems to me like she was close but didn’t quite make it."

My reply: okay most women who "feel good" and "shiver" experience something called mini orgasms. Or u can refer to the 1% of the female population who, naturally, cannot have an orgasm. However this is usually a mental block installed at a young age.

"Does sex feel good for girls as soon as you start having sex? Or is it like guys how it feels like nothing for a bit but eventually gets good more towards the end? She moans but apparently that’s just involuntary and she can’t help it."

Sexual stimuli should feel good to all parties involved. Just like men, women build to orgasms but for women its constant build and release. Think of climbing a mountain range and after the first mountain top is reached the slopes are less steep and u travel from each mountain easier and easier. The only obstacle is the first mountain. Women build orgasms almost in that fashion. Moaning is a very good signal of pleasure, especially involuntary moaning.

"Do girls get shivers all over their body when they orgasm?"

As i stated about mini orgasms, shivering is good mainly because when women orgasm they have a feeling or their bodies send signals of heat and at the climax the blood flow slows and they may shiver from that as well because it would feel like a sudden chill coming over them. Now the mini orgasms are achieved by increased frequency of orgasms. Women may shake or even have to stop because they feel light headed.

"Will she defiantly know when she has an orgasm?"

Well in this area i can only say that at an early age most men indulge in self-exploration and this leads to masturbation. Now with women it is tricky some do not figure out what is pleasurable till their late teens or mid-twenties. So those women do not know what a climax is. They may become simply understand that it feels good and want to do it again. Now the "Easy" women, or sluts, discover their sexuality early like men. These women are sometimes the hardest to please sexually due to the multiple lovers, years of fantasies or just high expectations. So she should know a good feeling when she gets one.

"If she feels like she needs to pee or uncomfortable will that feeling eventually disappear if we keep going?"

That is a natural response of the bladder after orgasm or even before. The reasoning behind it is that because women are more prone to bladder infection the body will try and keep that from happening, by clearing the urinary tract. It is a natural thing and may pass but some women that i have been with have stopped mid-coitus and used the bathroom and come back and continued and we didn’t have more problems.

"is stomach tightness and needing to pee a normal feeling to have during sex? "

i dont know what you mean by ""stomach tightness" but the need to pee is normal for some.

I hope this helped