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Hi I have a question regarding the situation I'm currently in, not as if I would call it a situation but I guess it will do for now.
Around 3 months ago I met a girl I knew from 7 years ago.. not that I think it has anything to do with it, although she went to my school. I'm 22 and she's 23. Basically we were together for a bit, she was so into me. We had sex loads of times at her place and mine, she lives on her own. We were cool together, everything was great, I was kinda happy. But she would always have this thing where she would try talk me out of seeing her because she thought I was too good for her and stuff like that. She practically loved me when I told her things like "I can't be friends with you, I would have to cut you out" she would literally cry and refuse to never let me go or never say anything like that again. A few days ago, she told me she can't deal with us, and that she needed space to think about what she really wants saying how she needs to think about her family and friends and such. I told her I would come and see her to talk about it, but she refused and said it will only make it harder on her. But I was thinking what about me? This is hard for me, I like this girl there is not one time I have not cum in her. She practically wanted my kids. I think I have fallen for her, her company is nice and she can act as if shes dangerous. I went to her house tonight in hopes of her being there so we can talk, it was my decision to go there because I can't let things be one sided. She wasn't there, or whatever, but I really feel the need to complete this task and see her finally face to face for that last talk and see what she says to my face. I need to make sure it's not a waste. I understand you PUA's have a different perspective on this, I don't even know what my main question is really, because no matter what you say I feel like this is how to do it. I don't want to be left hanging for something that's been growing. Any ideas on what to tell her to make her change her mind, I understand this is a bit weird maybe I don't know I just feel like I don't want to give a fuck, but I do cos I care about her obviously I want to tell her that she knows it. But at the end of the day, I miss the beat.
you are playing right into her game.
she wants to shift the balance of power in the relationship from you to her.
you are sprinting toward becoming an afc at record speed.
think about it.
she was all crazy about you, loved you, never wanted to let you go, wanted to have your babies.
now she needs space.
and you, do what?
freak out, track her down, try to talk about what's going on? etc?
you are playing right into her game and confirming that you will a little afc for her.
and guess what? when you do, she will lose all attraction.
do you want that?
you need to focus on not being an afc in this situation.
some of the pua's around here might have specific advice on how to dhv yourself, so she sees what she is walking away from.
think about it?
she is walking away from you (for space)
do you want her to see you as the prize that she should not have walked away from?
or as the little whiny afc who flipped and got clingy and needy at the first sign of a shit test?
which, that's what this is, btw...a massive shit test.
don't fail it.
CHAT
