i cheated on my gf and manned up to tell her...shouldnt of but i did, my wings said to just tell her. she's accepted my forgiveness and didnt want to leave me, so we've had sex as usual, but its not as "active" as before, where we used to do it once every day of the week to now once "every" other week.... the sex is amazing but every time shes been bitching that shes not in the mood or it hurts...whats the deal here? is she pulling games with me or most likely seeing someone else too? her friends have told me how much she never stops talking about me, but she did tell them everything about me cheating. i care about her to the point where it could be "oneitis," but i can control my emotions to not be too attached, i actually enjoy her company, well..did. i still do pua while dating her, and she knows i'm doing it. she knows i have 10x more girl friends than guy friends and used to get really jealous about me hanging out with them, now she doesnt "care," instead she'll just say "you better not be cheating on me." - opinions ?

Just because you were man enough to tell her you made a mistake does not automatically give you the "get out of jail free" card but I'm sure you know that. You girl sounds like a sweet but tough girl, trust me, it's probably killing her inside...the one she trusted doing to another girl what you should have your own GF.

I've been there, I've done that...and when I came back, I felt that since I had said I was sorry, it was ok...problem solved, but it was far from solved. She later went on to see someone else to get back at me and it hurt like a motherfukr! Why did I cheat, I wasn't happy with our sex life, did I say something, YES! But that didn't give me that right, of course not. Why did she cheat, because I did. The trust was gone. Shortly after, so was the relationship. DO I regret it, yes, does she, yes...but what's done is done.

I later asked her why it was so hard to let go of what I did, why was it so hard...she replied, in her mind, All she could think about was how I held this other girls hand, was it the way I would hold my own girls hand, how about the kissing and playing and well, sex too. Did I do to this new girl what I would do at home...it fukd with her mind relentlessly, she was never able to forgive me.

Not that any of this applies to you but if you want this to work, you will need to be patient, it's not something that she can just forgive and forget...but we all wish it could be this way. I wouldn't recommend you say to her...I understand what it feels like...you don't, so don't say it. If she hasn't cheated on you, those are the last words you want to say. It sucks, just try to make the best of it and be understanding and patient.

If you really want to try and make things work, if you have insurance and they cover it, suggest couples therapy. You have your reasons behind why you did it, granted, there is never a valid reason to cheat and hopefully, you'll never be on the receiving end of that.

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You can't make the same mistake twice, the second time you make it, it's no longer a mistake, it's a choice.

Thanks man, you couldn't of said it any better. Our relationship has been like a rollercoaster, on and off... and at times I feel like letting go and moving on, but there's always that time behind us that want to grasp onto a relationship because we figure we can keep a hold of it. I started reading a wonderful book my friend (who introduced me to PUA) showed me to, it's called "The Power of Now," by Eckhart Tolle, it shows us to look at our emotions as of present and not in the past, it makes a huge difference especially after that break up we go through that reminds us of so many emotions that cause "oneitis," this is a great book to read, I highly suggest it, as I've only started the other day and already on page 48. I hung out with her tonight and we talked for a bit, she did come off as a bitch (that's just who she usually is) but I figured I'd change it around and bitch right back at her... I hinted I wanted sex and she turned me down so I told ignored her and told her I was going to drop her off and head out with friends, she started craving my attention and told me not to leave her and we ended up fucking.. pretty fucking amazing if you ask me. I finally got something from her that I wanted without her telling me NO, it just took a little of domination and proving to her I was serious about it.

cheating fucks things up ... BAD.

there's no getting away from that.

this girl must REALLY FUCKING LOVE YOU if she is sticking around AND polishing your pole.

she says she is "not in the mood" and "it hurts".

that is because for women sex = emotion

get it?

it's her emotions that are "not in the mood" and "hurt" now during intimacy.

you are going to have to regain her trust (if it's even possible).

be prepared to go over-the-top to:
- SHOW her you are sorry
- MAKE her feel special
- PROVE you have changed

because, as it stands now, she doubts all these things and it hurts.

i've been cheated on multiple times, each time, i immediately broke it off because i could never get over it. i forgave (eventually), but the trust was gone. without trust, there is no relationship.

let's face it. you stuck a sword right through the heart of your relationship. have now pulled it out and apologized. we'll see if by some miracle it can survive a strike like that. ... usually not.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Spot on.

No matter how much you'll try to fix this - it will NEVER be completely repaired. Love is like a glass. If it breaks, it can be repaired. However, there will always be cracks.

Give it some time now and keep taking care of her and loving her, because there's nothing else you can do at this point.

yeah, you guys are so right, as mack said... i'm pretty sure she's in love with me. not to be cocky or anything but i feel pretty damn special to have her attention on me, she always calls me before bed, texts me what i'm doing etc... she's a very very beautiful girl, people always compliment how gorgeous she is. last night before sex she let me role play on her some new pua shit i learned...and she laughed and was like "this is the part where i go hahaha and dump beer all over your face and walk away," but as you can tell, i was successful, sometimes applying pua during relationships DO work, but in most case i'm usually natural with her.

I Think one thing you could do is stop pua all together, at least for a little while, show her you don't want to go out and game other girls but be home with her. Remember actions speak louder than words.