So I have a little dilemma. My girlfriend of 10 months and I broke up in early March. She essentially was controlling, emotionally abusive (makes me sound like a pussy, but she really fucked with my head), and she chanegd me into a different person; always arguing with my dad, I never went out to see my friends etc... Now since then I have a new girl wrapped around my finger, we are at the FWB stage. She is everything I would want in a girl, but I just cant move on completely from my ex.

I find myself wanting to go back to her all the time, and today I realized that I do think I still love her and just wish that things never happened the way they did. I cant put a finger on what is stopping me from getting over her. Everytime I am with this new girl things are pretty good, but I could never bring myself to call this girl my 'girlfriend'. Don't get me wrong I am happy with FWB but I just want to be able to move on from the ex.

PS, details were sort of vague for a reason, and you can call this one-itis or me an AFC all you want I just need some related stories and how you over came it etc etc. I'm fucking sick of being randomly depressed over this shit.

Edit- I miss the good times we had and they good times were amazing, but the bad times were horrible... We went through A LOT together with her family and my family, things a teenaged realtionship likely should never have to weather.

Dammit, just re-read it and I'm a chump...

You miss the idolized version of her that you have cooked up in your head.

You don't miss the hurricane that she was in your life.

People want what they can't have.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Hmmm I suppose maybe its time for a change in thought process. Her past behaviour predicts her future behaviour - craziness.... But damn the nympho like behaviour will be missed

It's not worth it, Buddy.

Go find another nympho to fuck the hell out of. This time don't get emotionally attached.

Best of both worlds.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

But damn the nympho like behaviour will be missed

And there is the reason for the one-itis. It's amazing how good sex can warp a guy's mind.
I agree with Mack, find another girl with nympho like qualities bro, they are EVERYWHERE.

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Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions. - Robert Greene

Committed decisions. Tony Robbins style.

Haven't spoken to her since 2008 or so. Miss some things, but as a package it's below me.

And yes she still tries to contact me occasionally.

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I'm a winner - I am going to win.

This may sound strange, but this forums has helped so much! I have never been so depressed in my life.... EVER! I keep wanting to get back with her, then all I need to do is log on here do some reading and bam! I realize, "hey maybe all my family and friends are right, I should never get with here again." But however some part of me wants to sit down and have a normal civilized conversation with her over a coffee or something, becasue she WAS a great friend before we dated.

Oftentimes, that's how it is in the cold light of morning.

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When in Doubt, Freeze Her Out.

I'll correct your statement and add a little food for thought in doing so:

But however some part of me wants to sit down and have a normal civilized conversation with her over a coffee or something, because she SEEMED LIKE a great friend before we dated.

...enough said...

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

I often think that there's some sort of hormone rush that "your perfect woman" provokes for some strange reason.

After it's gone all your emotions go cold and it's much easier to make rational decisions.

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When in Doubt, Freeze Her Out.

And it has only been 2 months. Just sit it out and do not stupid with the other girl. The only legit advice I could give you.