So I've been reading allot on this section on the form lately and as most of you know it's mostly about one-itis. Instead of doing separate things lets all work together lets help ourself out and share your experience bad or good help each other get over this god damn one-itis that is honestly ruining our relationships or stopping us get the girl we want it's an awful thing to have, I have had it and I'm starting to get it back. I'm not sure if there is a cure apart from moving on but most of us are to stubborn to do so or we want something so much we try to hard to get it and spend most of our time getting it we never really get it or when we do we think why did I waste so much time a day for this.

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The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.

Was thinking to do the same .

Let me try and resume this, I have had my share of girls but never found that special one, wasnt interested on relantionships thought really that I would never feel what my friends was feeling on everyday basis having diferent one tits that would made them do crazy stuffs and suffer painfull breakups. I reach 22y old without never having felt this feeling

Then I met this Girl my one titis who I have to say it was the best thing in my life who literraly made me truly "happy"( I was always a fun and happy person but with her I was way much better) I felt complete , fell in love for a girl who was so diferent with me responsible caring A+ student. I became a major AFC just to please forgeting all about PUA, even abandoning it, because I thought what I have was forever and she was diferrent for the rest of the girls. Then we brokeup dont have to say that I became bitter and sad and thought that all girls was disposable, and my one itis was the PERFECT PUT HER ON PEDESTAL, had a pretty rough time think at one point I was depressed. So did my best and got her back after 4 months. Dont have to say that was the single most perfect day ever, but time pass and THE RELANTIONSHIP WASNT THE SAME. So what I realize that she wasnt that perfect that she had flaws, the image that I first had was gone, start noticing some bitch qualities that i never seen but I still loved her so much. So I try the best to please(FIRST BIG MISTAKE) was always afraid she would leave me and I would feel what I felt the first time we brokeup so I lived in fear which eventually she did, she told me she loved but we couldnt stay together(I could have fight and she would probably cave in) but I just walked away,have to say that I was happy for a while for having the courage to leaving that girl but now after two months the thoughts of her now haunts me every single fucking day Im still in love with this girl I still dream with her like it is the first day I feel incomplete and sometimes depressed, but in no conditiion I want her back, somethings are best to stay behind, and try to treasure the moments you got and take that as experiennce that improved my life.

I think I am in the middle of a serious one itis situation. Ofcourse, broken up, she appears in my dreams and is in my mind every single day. Yesterday she told me she is aware that i still like her and ask about her and she herself told me to stop. Was like a dagger in my heart that had been coming. I realise that, oneitis, girls... its a state of mind, a mentality you have to build, is she really perfect? Or do we perfect them to be someone they arent. Its only now i really see that she is has bitchy qualities.

I think we DO all NEED to work together on this one, it is important for us to find the best cure for oneitis...... if there is one

Do you believe that everything happens for a reason? that we can get better then the one who dominates our mind? Why do they dominate our mind, is it because they are the only girl who said no to us and its a game?

Whats the best cure?

Pick up a hobby, take the female off of the pedastal, and remember why she is not perfect, also go pursue other women. I do this as soon as I see myself starting too grow one-itis
Thats what works for me at least

Break your dick off in some other girl.

Make a list of the things you like about her vs the things you don't like. In most cases, under the "like" column it says "body" and that's about it, and over on the right there are about 20 things you don't like.

Work on your own shit. Hit the gym. Do things that benefit you no matter what happens.

Say no to HER. Freeze her out and stick to it for a good while.

I want to post a reply again here because I believe this thread should keep going. I want to find a cure to this horrible disease i seemed to be so caught up in.

I have been doing some thinking, maybe one Itis is a mental state? The fact that the girl is so different, maybe not special, that we place her on a pedastal.

Another question I have is, how do you find a "better girl" when you are so caught up in a girl already, to make matters worse, who doesnt want you.

Ignore her for a while. This has the dual effect of letting your own feelings settle, and making her miss you (or at least remove the irritation you are causing and let the scrape heal).

I really think that time away is one of the most powerful techniques available. Look how nuts it has made YOU-- now apply the same thing to her.

I agree and disagree with your post because, time away is what she wanted and what I didnt want = me going crazy.

I first need her to at least want to be friends before I go missing... otherwise she sticks to her just not wanting to see me

I pissed her off by my irritation to try and get her back

If only there was a way to test this out, Well I had one-itis with the girl I'm going out with now before I got her. But I got lucky with this I got in the friend zone and I had one-itis I was in to deep I thought after allot of help and my own effort I got her.

This is what I did we still talked but I was in the friend zone soo bad. She asked me if I was going to this party next week and we arranged to hang out in her words as friends. So I thought fuck that I went to town bought my self some new clothes, Fresh new haircut didn't speak text or anything for a whole week gamed her mate which was a shit thing to do but I was soo determined. So the day the party came I totally Ignored her and after half hour or so she come up to me asking what my problem was and why I was hitting on her mate, I told her It was my business and then she went I thought you liked me. I said I did but I wasn't going to wait around for her and said I didn't want her as a friend so she kissed me she stayed at mine and ever since she's been mine but... This isn't the answer all the time.

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The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.

Im impressed, thats proper gaming right there and im sure it is harder then it sounds. So what do you suggest to me.. Dated her for a year, broke up now for 6 months, everyday wanted her back, I know she has hooked up with three guys that i hate, she told me herself to back off....

Ok another story for you this is before I got with my girlfriend now.
This is about my first love, she broke my heart and finished with me for the right reasons because I settled and got boring.

Soo after a month of drowning my sorrows and been a totally fucking pussy, I had allot of help from people on this sight I started gaming again. Hooked up allot all felt meaningless If I'm honest I hate one night stands. Soo she saw me out allot with different girls didn't bother her what so ever I was only doing what she said moving on. But the girl I'm seeing now bothered her she knew I had strong feelings for her so after a while of me and the girl I'm seeing now was dating I got a phone call off my Ex saying I looked good and she was proud how I changed etc... Crying down the phone saying how much she misses me and how much she wants me back. I'm not bragging or anything I'm just telling the story there is allot more to it this happened for weeks she even tried hitting my Gf. So I took her advice and moved on, Whyso do what your girlfriend said move on and forget about her will be the best advice you ever got.

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The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.

One of the best cures for this dreaded disease is to take off the relationship/fling/interest goggles that make everything about a past relationship/fling/interest look perfect and and try to use the pain as a motivator to make you a better person, learn a new skill, do better at your work and be a better friend to your friends. Do nothing but positive things, and you will notice the rewards you reap. You will come out of it a better stronger person and in the end more attractive as an individual.

The only cure that I have found is to fuck your ex until she because just another sex toy for you. You will end up meeting a new girl that you will fall in love with and forget that god damn one-itis. The real question is how do you do to manipulate your ex in having sex with you. It succeded once out of two but I guess 50% chance isn't that : Ask her to become fuck-friends. She might fall in love with you but DON'T. Anyways you shouldn't care less 'cuze she fucked around with you (well that was for my case anyway).

Hope that'll help and I'll be waiting for ways to fuck your ex !

I think there's a lot of misguided comments here. There's a difference between moving on and having utter disrespect for women.

It's not a disease; there is no cure. You've given up your power or let it be taken. You will always be fed scraps by the person that holds the power; your (ex-) girlfriend, your employer, the government...

Empower yourself and stop letting good feelings be held over you. Money, power, success are attracted by those who already have it.

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I'm a winner - I am going to win.

I think I can really help you out. More than just going out and fucking other girls. I believe even us guys have a certain type we are attracted to most. I love strong determined women. Thats my type. First you have to realize that "the one" is kind of a false idea. Because we all have a type!

No two girls are the same can be said but think about that for a second. We are all here becoming Alpha males. Of course we all have different styles but if a girl were to lose one of us, then another one of us can step in and she will realize that she likes this new type of guy who is cocky funny and not needy.

I believe you have to find your certain type and realize there is more than just one type of girl. If I had a dime for all the girls I saw that fit my certain type of woman.
Thought my ex was the one but found there are plenty of strong determined woman out there who are great for me. If you go out with just any girl then yeah you will feel no emotion for them whatsoever except a sexual one. But you wont want to date then after.