Where do I start? I use to be in a bubble, an environment in school where I was so happy and proud of who I was, dated a beautiful girl a year younger than me and I became crazy about her. Oneitis hit me hard. I moved away to University in England, and she stayed in the previous country, I couldn’t stop thinking about her and I tried to win her back, I called, I emailed, it scared her to be honest and she ignored me. Something we had which was so beautiful was being destroyed.
I went back during the break, and I tried to win her back, and she stood her ground and she said no. I had no choice but to block her out of my life, well try to. I did all you can imagine, deleted songs, throw out perfumes, erase pics, block of facebook… I still heard about the occasional guy she got with and I just couldn’t move on.
Now I am back again, and we are on talking terms. This girl is the girl that I feel weak around and would of done so much for, and I want her back, and this isn’t me… this guy who feels this way. I don’t know what to do or what to try, I have something cute to plan but maybe that wont work? I meet her this weekend… I initiated it.
I need your help, advice, what you suggest. When I hear she gets with another guy it kills me, where I am in University, I find rarely ONE girl attractive…
Let me know what you think

well most pua's would call that one itis and you having a afc attitude.

What I could tell you is to cherish that moment. ALSO, learn how to let go of situations and learn how to accpet things.

I suggest reading the book by Eckhart Tolle, the power of now.

I dont know how to learn to accept it, thats the thing. What do i do when i meet her

If you really want to get her back you are going to have to exercise great self restraint and discipline. You are going to have to do what is right in terms of Pick Up rules NOT what you feel you think you should do. The only way to get her back is to play expert game. The focus of your game should also be to STOP showing too much interest. If she knows you are obsessed with her it will be the biggest turn off for her. One approach to take is show her that you have options. Basically making her jealous by getting other girls to hang around you.

If you really want her back, you can't be all worried and crap. You have too be the guy you were when you first got with her, and with the mindframe you are in now, not going too happen.
If I were you I'd leave her alone, if she's hooking up with all these guys now, what makes you think she won't cheat when you go back too university?

Im agaisnt for going after the ex g/f because of alot reasons ,I did the same mistake and regret it. But since you are asking for help I will help you this is what work for me and a friend but that doesnt mean it will work with everyone or even the correct way its my opinion. After the breakup alot change in me and change alot, I dive much more In Pua. so i had strong frame than previous, I was more fun, I knw alot more and she saw that that I mature and this make more attracted. So I began my plan.

Let me tell you look like a guy desesperate if she senses( which she will) it will be GAMEOVER, if I were I would cut contact for one month so you could put your head in place and study a bit of PUA , you would show you are busy and not too avaiable for her. If you are short on time and have to go back to university, I wouldnt even go talking with my ex, for what? you guys would reconnect for two weeks and then you had to go to england.

If not this is what I would do

- Invite her for a cofee keep thins light( try and find a new place that she doesnt knw but you know she will like) not a dinner
- Keep things casual and fun. Dont hit on her
- Show you are guy who was various option.
- Dont talk about the past OR you as couple OR EVEN RELANTIOSHIPS
- If she talks about guys you cut out quickly try and change the subject.
-If she is boring show her she is being, when my ex was talking about some stupid thing, I start watching Soccer while I was only nodding, and then she said , but tell me about you lol.
- Show her you changed by talking what are you doing maybe a new hobby(i.
-Dont be too focused on her.
- Try and escalate her the best you could create sexual tension
-Use alot of push\pull
- Be cocky and funny dont try to be her gay friend
- YOU END THE COFEE.
- And be aware of the shit test she will do alots to see if you are still in HER ZONE. so be smart about that.

If she reiniate contact after that cofee for another thing, say you are busy whatever use a good excuse, you have party whatever.DONT BE TOO AVAIABLE. Let some days pass and invite her for something fun that you guys never did.

If you guys hook up keep things interesting and light dont be too avaiable or even think you have won the game make her chase you not the other way around


AND THE MOST IMPORTANT GO OUT AND HAVE FUN GO GAME GIRLS USE THE ROUTINES USE WHAT YOU HAVE AT YOUR DISPOSAL SEE WHAT WORKS , THIS WILL GIVE YOU A STRONG FRAME AND WILL BOOST YOUR EGO
I have to say that the main reason that made my Ex G/F coming crawling for me was the changed she saw in me my confidence my frame was way higher, push and pull work like a charm, I knew how to create sexual tension much better, but this was a work of 3 months of PUA and experimeting alot. GL

I agree on push / pull.
Really? Or was that an entirely internal event that YOU experienced inside your mind?

I know nothing about the situation but to me it sounds pussy/chumpy.

Don't know how to accept it?

We aren't psychologists.

The people here are giving you advice, not emotional counseling.

I'm not trying to be a dick, really, but how can anyone on this forum, help you to "accept" something in your own reality?

The ADVICE was given (and I agree, you need to accept it and move on).

But you want something else beyond "advice", you want someone to help you ACCEPT the advice, how can we do that for you?

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Best policy: Go on to the next.

If you feel bad boot 'em. Gotta figure out a way to be kind, and give people slack, but if the device isn't working, throw it out and get a new device.

There are 3 billion of them.

Observation: Much human behavior is maladaptive for the modern world. The way we are evolved for tiny tribal societies and not gigantic megacities.

Bro I've been there. Was crazy about this one girl and I feel hard. Tried to get her back and everything. I know how I would of gotten her back but I found someone new and discovered just how great my new girl is compared to the last one. SOOO much happier.

Of course if you feel you want to get her back I suggest not being so attached to her. Actually cancel some dates on her. Become busy even if it's a lie. Go hang with the guys and other girls. Playing hard to get works for guys also. trust me. Give her the gift of missing you. But first you got to get her attracted to you.

This is where you should stop acting like the needy nice guy and start being the Alpha male we all know you can become. Study cocky funny. Study talking about things that most guys don't with women. become a new person for her.

I'd look up ebooks from David DeAngelo if I was you. And MAgical tactics ebook.
The things you are doing now are not attracting her. You must try something different. if all else fails cause it's hard to break those first impressions then my best advice is what I said before. Find another girl. or just go out to a club or bar, and see how much longer this special girl stays special in your mind. It wont be for long.

There are plenty of girls out there who I have found to be the one. The one idea is a lie. There are millions of girls who can match you. Find out your type and go for those types of girls. Seriously bro. I could leave my gf right now but it wouldn't matter cause there will be another girl who fits the type of girl that I want.

Sorry if this is too long but we are here to become what women want. In there minds we are the ones for them but in truth there are hundreds of us who can just step in and be what she wants. There are hundreds of other girls who can be what you want in a girl. Best of luck to you