when I was about 15, I was frustrated that I couldn't get girls as easily as I thought that everyone else could...with time, practice and trial-n-error. I am 20 now and I am confident to say that I am a pretty good guy ( I wouldn't call myself a pua since I didn't really learned how to get girls by reading or using the help from online communities...I know what PUA stands for..but thats just the meaning I gave to the word) Anyways I was 18-19 and I met this great girl, and about a year later we had a friends with benefits thing and I wanted to date her but she didnt want to..and obs I did what any other guy who is good with girls would do...lol jk...I became whipped and developed a severe case of one-itis that I had a lot of trouble overcoming. Anyways after 4-5 months of having sex with this girl (but I wanting a relationship but she just wanting to fuck around)...she decided to leave my friendship because according to her I was ruining her life and trying to alienate from her friends, In retrospective, I was just a little bitch who wanted attention and she was giving something new...sex + friendship...I have had both but not with the same person..I was amazed and wanted more. She stopped talking to me in January and I was sad about it...but I decided to "fuck it" I didnt go on a sex rampage, I did made out a few girls, had sex with 2, and met lots of them..just for practicing... In those 4 months (it took me 4 months to be over her) I started working out even more, dressing better, etc. My life improved. I am a lot better with girls than I ever was and other stuff that I will not discuss because well...this is seddit and not some place where you talk about school/life/maturity etc

So I was at the mall a few days ago, and I saw her friend who I met once after leaving her house...we talked and decided to grab a smoke..we talked and whatnot. So I went back home and added her on fb (I told her I would...I could have waited for her to add me but I am at a bit of a disadvantage here...she might have heard stuff about me from her friend), so I added her... and I start looking through her pics..and I see the girl I have one itis with...and she is hugging another guy and then I realized I didnt care that much (later I will find out through severe creeping that they're dating)

Her ex-bfs were ugly...(I am a good looking guy), and the current guy she is with..is ugly and a bit chubby...but then I realized that I didnt care not because she didnt do better than me..it was because I was over her. That transformation phase of my life was done with and I had taken what I could and learned from it.

I am not going to lie..deep deep down inside..I am a bit jealous...that she would date all these guys but not me (girls want to date me) and the fact that she replaced me so fast while I couldn't replace her (emotionally at least), but I was also really good friends with this girl for a while and she forgot about the guy before me pretty fast even thought she was so in love with him so I wasn't any different. But I can honestly say that the worse of this one-itis storm is over. I am happy to be back to normal (improved) I just wanted to share that story with you guys...

one-itis is a bitch and the only cure is time.

Fuck yea good for you buddy!

I can relate to this. almost 100%. I have one question for you though.
You obviously think of yourself as better than this new guy. If he had been better looking than yourself and you felt inferior to this guy, do you think you would be even more jealous? And as a result of this what effect do you think this would have on the length of time it takes you to get over her?

It's good that you're moving forward and making progress. Tell me, if I did something like ^this after initially telling you that I had MAD oneitis but I was TOTALLY over her - would you believe me?

Do you think I would believe myself?

Just some food for thought.

Acceptance is the first step towards healing.

sounds like the kind of girl who wants to "mate with stud" and "marry the pud".

or is that most women, lol? idk.

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