Does it ever work trying to "re-game" a chick we've had The Oneitis for?

Once they've had our soul in their hands and smashed it into oblivion, can you ever really recover a strong enough "frame"? Not so sure. I would move on. You laid your soul bare to this chick and she said "meh, no thanks". LOL, you can't put that far enough into your psyche with pua tactics to act like it didn't happen.

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what dr. house brings to medicine, i bring to everyday life (an extreme dose of cynicism), don't listen to the curmudgeon!

Engineer that sounds exactly like my situation at first she confessed her love for me asked me to her parents I also fixed her laptop lol. I am still with her things seem to be ok but we argue more than usual lately this girl is my one-itis I did brake out of it and re-gamed her and got her to fall in love with me or at least say she is. Engineer I believe once we've stopped going out with them and moved on we re-evaluate what we done wrong and we learn from them so.... my question to you is what would you change and done allot different go in depth if you have to actually please go into depth so people like us can learn from our mistakes.

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The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.

that chick is owning you man! drop her like a hot rock and move onto some new pussy...unless oh gosh, you have feelings for her too?

lol jk dont be a dickhead, be real and she will be with you too. no more of that neg bullshit either.

Thanks for the replies. I'm not sure if she's my one-itis. I'm not exactly sure if really really like the girl or just like dating. But what I don't like is that I had my game on and all of a sudden I was back being and AFC.

So my goal is still to get the interest spike in her back. It's not to get her back, it's to prove myself I can do this. It's a high goal for me so I'll need some training. That's why I went to you guys. So please post some 're-gaming' advice.

To answer AP's question: What I did wrong is copying her behavior. She was sending me a couple of sweet text messages a day. She told me she was in love and she asked me to go out of town do fun stuff. What I thought was: 'I can't be like this, not doing my best. She's giving me a lot of attention she must be demanding some back'. WROOOONG. I started with those lovely BS text messages just because I thought that was what she liked, yeah at first. But after a few weeks my whole game changed because of that.

If I ever happen to be in that kind of a situation again. I will still fix her laptop but not send any of those sweet cheesy text messages. And do fun stuff with my buddies until she asks to go out of town. That way I create the loving or caring value not by saying it but by fixing stuff for her. And I create the value of busyness and fun by spending time with my buddies instead of her. I remember when I was out with some friends she kept on bugging me with messages. I was too busy to respond. But the fact that I wasn't near her and not responding kept triggering her attraction mechanism. She liked that I was laid back and didn't cared as much as she was maybe used to. So my advice is to stick to your game. The game you played to seduce her stick to that. Take off a little gas after 6 weeks and transform very very slowly in to the guy that you actually can or would like to be in the relationship. If the change isn't subtle, like mine was, it messes with their heads and destroys your relationship.

Does that answer your question AP?

BTW Cygnus says quit the negging bullshit. Anyone got an opinion on that? I haven't seen or spoke the girl for over a week now so all my options are open.
I just have to hit that interest spike, that is my number one goal right now.

"Afraid of losing you" is the best way to lose a girl. Why are you afraid? If you;re at the point where you NEED her, then you're in trouble. A relationship is 2 about mutual support, not need. You do things for her because you want to, not because she needs you to do them and vice versa. NEED in a relationship is bad and usually leads to the "afraid of losing you" feeling.

To overcome the need, work out why you feel you need her and imagine doing those things without her. Yeah its possible, because you did those things before you met her and if you didnt, then learn how to do them. Become self sustainable so that if the situation ever arises, you can take care of yourself without anyones assistance. This will give you confidence in knowing you'll be able to go on living without her if the situation ever arose.

Also while a girl may seem perfect at the time, if your relationship is continually breaking down, then its better to cut her away no matter how hard it may seem. If you break a vase, you;ll be able to glue the pieces back together the first few times. If the vase is continually breaking, the pieces get smaller and harder to glue back together to the point where its better to get a new vase than repair the old one.
Except in chess where the queen is the powerhouse and the king is the frail piece that needs to be protected.

A relationship is mutual, theres no reason why a man and woman cant equally share the lead. I find it actually works better than if one person is leading all the time as that can lead to alot of resentment from both parties that 1 is doing more work, or the other is making all the decisions.

If you love something, let it go, and watch it come back. (If it loves you) Or however the saying is. Anyways... don't be so controlling over her. You're acting insecure. Game other women while your dating this chick, but I'm not encouraging cheating on her. Go to the mall with your boys and get some #Closes... Quit thinking you can't lose this chick cuz she's the only chick out there... there are plenty of other females out there... Gaming other women will make you realize this and lose these silly insecurities...

I do agree with you about gaming other women, but I'm not a cheat never have been never will be. I've tried speaking to other women but every time I do I feel bad as if I'm cheating. Because deep down if she went out with her mates just to talk to other lads I'd be pretty pissed if I'm honest. I don't control her what so ever I'm not the controlling type it's just my head makes things out to be worse then things actually is.

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The Edge... there is no honest way to explain it because the only people who really know where it is are the ones who have gone over.

There's nothing wrong in being social and talking to girls as long as you don't lead them on. Light flirting won't do any harm, on the contrary it will improve your self-esteem. So skip the # close, just enjoy the interaction.

Well what I mean is why play on her self esteem when you have low self esteem too. Is it so hard to be honest with her and tell her how you feel. Some women find it refreshing. At the same time, go out and have fun but I think it pays to be upfront with her.

You really think your girl feels bad when she talks with other guys? And maybe even flirts with them? Hell no! Chicks with boyfriends do this all the time. The guy just has to have game. Your girlfriend and that guy will flirt, and hopefully that's it. If she isn't a good girlfriend, she will smash the FUCK out of this guy with game, ya dig?

You know, I am going to be completely honest with you man. Because there is no problem that needs to be solved here. TRUTH BE SAID... She is with you because she wants to be, you obviously have something she likes... Even when you question why you are with her she asks "why"...

If a girl acts the way you are acting, its a turn off, its a signal for me to say... Your so right.

The problem is you,

you are you're own worst enemey here, look at yourself in the mirror, say youre a fucking god she is lucky and let the outcome take care of itself

Yeah what he said ^^^
You don't feel like you're entitled to be with the girl you're with for some weird reason, but you should be, you're an awesome guy and (fill in with good qualities lol), and you deserve too be with her, and her with you, you must destroy the mental pedastal
Believe and trust in yourself, no matter what, stop doubting
You have value because of your person qualities, and because you are a male and she is a female, you have penis she has vagina, she likes penis, and you have.... lol