What's your opinion on your girlfriend being hit on, by other guys, via facebook? Would you tell her to delete those messages, or not care for it?

Happens to me all the time, or well, to my girlfriend i guess.

Tell her to reply to him, tell her to pretend she's interested just so you two can make fun of him.

I always tell my girlfriend that she should give a guy her number if he asks for it, so we can make fun of him together when he texts. She knows i'm a PUA/rAFC whatever you call it, we watched both seasons of the pickup artist together because she thought it was fun...she now knows a lot of the openers so it should be fun., yet she tells me she doesnt want to give her phone number to another guy.

Anyway, be confident about it. Tell her you think it's funny. If you get the same shit from women on facebook or whatever social network; let her read it. Let her know you're a wanted man also. Then reassure her you don't have any interest and she will feel the same

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Cant post new topics so might as well steal this one because its in kind in the same area.

Have been with my girlfriend for something like four months now. Everything has gone really good this far. Then, last week she went to this student boat trip. When she came back I knew right a way that something was wrong. I asked if she had done something at the trip but she denied. well. after a while she confessed that she had talked with some guy there and felt bad for it. I understand this. And believe that there didn't happen anything else. There must have been some affection and after that she felt bad about it.

This is normal and I didnt make any fuzz bout it. These things happens and will happen in future.

well today I noticed that she had new fb friend and guessed that its the one from the boat trip so I teased her bout this, "so this is the young don draper" (as she called him earlier) and she laughed and said yes.

I didn't get mad at her or anything. just teased bit, but I think she noticed that i'm worried. we just talked online so I haven't seen her face to face yet.

thing is that I know how I should just ignore this and if she would have added some random dude I would not give a damn about it but if she felt bad for talking to him he sure have some affection for him and I feel like shit now. what should I do?

I know that she has cheated in hers previous relationships but those guys were weak and they relationships were really bad, nothing like ours.

My rule with women is once a cheater always a cheater, keep your eyes open and watch her, how long have you been together anyway?

There's not much you can do . . . She's a walking red flag.

*Cheated in her previous relationships
*Felt bad over 'talking' to some guy.

Which girl feels bad over 'talking' to some guy, when she comfortably 'cheated' and did worse in her previous relationships?

Also, you say your relationship with her is 'different'. That's what they all say.

Don't attack her for this though. You don't know anything yet. So she made friends on the boat - that's nothing you can judge her for. Accusing her without any evidence would crash the relationship pretty quickly.

Leave this alone for now and don't say or do anything that shows you were greatly affected by it.

Go ahead and 'keep your eyes' on your next girlfriend and 'watch her'. Report back to as how many days you managed to keep her around.

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There would be no need to because if she was a cheater in past relationships I would not waste my time nor her time in the first place.

For one she lied, who feels bad for talking to someone.
Obviously the girl got in touch with the guy from the cruise that she probably cheated on her boyfriend with.
It tells me "hey something isn't right she said she felt bad for "talking" with this guy? Yet she added him as a friend?"

Also the fact that she claimed it was the "Don Draper" that she felt bad about?

I'm just saying he should not be naive.

^So whenever you suspect that your girlfriend is cheating, your way of handling things is to, from then on, consistently stalk her until you find out the truth?

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No I bring it up, and talk to her about it,until the issue is ironed out, or we're broken up.

He has done that and also has a girl that was a cheater, and probably still is, the way I see it is, it's just a matter of time before she cheats if not with that guy,someone else if she hasn't done so already

I never said stalk her, I said keep his eyes open, which means don't be naive.
If this guy posts up and down her facebook wall, texts her and calls her all day,and she is reciprocating, and she hangs out at his house or with him alone, he shouldn't be like wtf o.o? If none of that goes on he can just chill and attempt to talk to her again if anything is still bothering him

You should do NOTHING

Why? Because if you do SOMETHING it won't mind.

If she wants to cheat, she cheats.

The only thing YOU should care for is getting along with her well.

If you can't trust her anyway, get out of it. because TRUST is like the cornerstone of any LTR.

I agree

Gain some piece of mind, she can talk to whoever she wants and not feel bad about it because YOUR the man - keep being the man, dont let it phase you and become the bitch by getting clingy/over protective.

If she cheats, forget about her - shes fucked to begin with and always will be - dont invest emotionally in her. Remember, YOUR the man

It's funny how after a straight to the point answer(short and just what the poster needs) there are all this replays with long analysis on them.You can notice how they come from a very reactive perspective,thus being mostly empty in content.

Poet1234, get your head in the game. There are two questions here.


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rookie mistake

It's noticeable how much 'game' has had an effect on people that reply like this. They analyze the analyzers and pretend as if themselves are not reactive when in fact they react on something completely pointless to make themselves seem as if they stand above others.

Also, there are two different topics in this thread. Read through the whole thing properly before meaninglessly commenting on the style of assistance that other people on this forum like to use.

Panda out.

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i only just joined this site tonight and know nothing about pick up or methods just yet but in my own personal opinion, i would feel very paranoid about the flirts she gets, i mean the average guy is likely to be so worried about rejection that he wont even flirt with a girl (especially publicly , facebook) unless the chicks shown interest. could be wrong but its just my opinion for right now.