I'm dating a girl for about 6 weeks now.

We get along well, apart from the fact that it is ALWAYS me that needs to set up everything. She always will respond positively (unless she really is occupied obviously), but i don't like it, since it is like she doesn't care at all.

We live in the same city, 5minutes away from eachother. If i don't contact her she never contacts me. It can take 2 days without any contact if i don't initiate (tried it once)

I told it to her, that i'm losing the interest of putting all the effort in the communication.

She said its normal not to contact eachother for about 2 days. IS IT? For me its not..
On the fact that i liked her to contact ME also from time to time she just said "ok". thats it.

I wonder whether i'm too AFC in this stuff. Am i too much of control freak with her? Am I driving her away from me in this way?

thanks for the answers...

I dont know man, its totally different when youre in a relationship vs. when you just started gaming a girl. Are you guys officially bf/gf? If you are officially a couple, it seems like she should be putting in more effort, esecially this early on. In my experience early on in a relationship the girl is usually texting/calling quite a bit.

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2 days isn't that long to go without speaking. Sounds like you're being a little too needy and clingy. Try to just leave it a few days and wait for her to get in touch. Also, how's the sex? Sounds to me like she might be faking it... When you do see her, do you tell her how hot she makes you? When you're dancing at the club do you kiss her on the neck and whisper how you can't wait to take her home and ravage her? Do you tell her how great she smells and how you can't wait to be inside her? If not, why not?

WOMEN LOVE TO BE TOLD HOW MUCH THEY MAKE YOU WANT THEM

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We are more or less "official bf/gf" in the sense that she told her other (girl)friends that I am her boyfriend.

We didn't had sex yet. Oral yes. Once we could have had sex (quite in the beginning) but i hadn't had protection with me. However, having sex will be just a matter of time i guess. It's not there is no affection. She is hugging me a lot. Although, i don't know why there is no sex. We sleep from time to time together, but she's in a shared room, so it's inpossible to have sex there. So maybe its just we didn't had too many possibilities. Also, another time i was about to fuck her but i could not stay hard, because of the stress/whatever with a new girl..

If i would say the stuff to her you told me just now she would react very negative, in the way she would see it as a lack of respect towards her. She's a complicated girl. Very idealistic in how the world works and that stuff. Very religious too. A lot of norms and standards. I would never dare to tell her those kind of things.

What do you mean by faking? If she's not into me, she could just leave it and not spend time with me. She can find another boy in 1 minute if she wants.

By the way: in the GAMING-stage, she did send me messages. From the moment we were more or less "together" say, it stopped.

So, you've gone six weeks, still no sex? Yeah, you better fuck her soon or she'll be fucking someone ELSE believe me. The reason she seems distant and not eager to contact you is because you're not fulfilling her.

Every guy thinks their girl is the special little angel, but guess what? ALL women LOVE dirty talk. Not some, or most, ALL. The fact that it's taboo and naughty is what makes it HOT, so the more professional or religious or uptight the girl may present herself to the world, the MORE she's gonna like it.

Right now, you're not presenting a dominant, commanding, sexual, masculine image to her. The BEST way to re-charge her attraction for you, see you in the right way, and get her to WANT to meet you and WANT to have sex with you is to activate her MIND with sexual thoughts.

Just TRY it, with a confident, deep delivery. Right now you're NOT having sex with a girl who can barely be bothered to see you. What exactly do you have to LOSE?

For example go in for a kiss, but then move away and smell her neck, then look her in the eye and say "you smell amazing tonight," CONFIDENTLY, like YOU WANT HER. Tell me, is this a lack of respect? No, it's telling a girl YOU FIND HER ATTRACTIVE. It's called a COMPLIMENT. It's also building sexual tension and helping you move towards SEX. Would you like that? Yes, you would

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I don't fully agree

in my opinion your focus on sex is way too big.

btw; its difficult to do some dirty talk if you couldn't get hard the last time.. i have no more sexual experience at all besides oral. so telling some dirty stuff is hard to do if you are bloody inexperienced


you made me scary though and feeling bad, as it is because of me she is distant. I'm always very sweet with her in bed, kissing her all over the place and so on.. at least THAT can't be so bad.

Dude your coming off as super AFC. If shes not into me she could find another guy in 1 minute? Fuck that dude before you even worry about this girl you need to get in a better frame.

Then have a plan and make sure your prepared with protection. That means a condom and LMR.

-Aiden

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Every guy thinks their girl is the special little angel, but guess what? ALL women LOVE dirty talk. Not some, or most, ALL. The fact that it's taboo and naughty is what makes it HOT, so the more professional or religious or uptight the girl may present herself to the world, the MORE she's gonna like it.

Right now, you're not presenting a dominant, commanding, sexual, masculine image to her. The BEST way to re-charge her attraction for you, see you in the right way, and get her to WANT to meet you and WANT to have sex with you is to activate her MIND with sexual thoughts

Apocalyptica, you need to pay attention to this post if you plan on being successful with women, blondguy knows what he is talking about. And I agree with aidenfuckingbaker (love that name), you are acting way AFC. Calling her and making all the plans, playing little games like holding out to see if she calls YOU for a change? Come on man, seriously?

With all due respect, you need to 'man-up' and get some confidence.
Confidence is your biggest obstacle right now, you have none. I am sure your confidence is tied directly to your lack of sexual experience, which is understandable. However, you need to fix it.

blondguy's focus is not to sexual, you are just afraid of this area so you look for a reason to NOT go there.

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Thanks for the replies, but HOW should i fix it?

Doing dirty talk and then be a pussy in bed isn't really an option i consider to take...

I would be glad i can have my dick hard, to say the least.

I know however i need more confidence, which is directly linked to inexperience. But it's a vicious circle.


One more thing; if the girl really likes me, she should have patience with me. She's not stupid and probably knows that i'm not a sexually experienced dude. If she moves on for THAT reason i'll be happy to KNOW that and i wouldn't care for a second.

We are talking here about relationships, not about pick up are we.

BTW: she actually sends me messages and start to search communication now i have said her.

DUDE DUDE DUDE
First Blonde, then me and then Sinful pointed it out in BOLD for christs sake for you!

No routine is gonna get you what you want dood!
Confidence! Inner game!

Dude its something that every one of us practices no matter how good we are and its something you will NEED IN LIFE.

Today, I had a CRAPPY thanksgiving. When im in a bad mood I tend to act like an ass hole and take things for granted..in this case sadly today it was in front of my family. But man I have to push through! I have to change this! Instead of complaining the only way to make a change is to CHANGE. a change of attitude and that means admitting that im wrong.
Let me show you something
My good friend posted this on my facebook when I told him about my day

"Peep game man. Life is about how you handle even the worst of situations. This past year I've seen it all. I've lost friends, family, and even went through a breakup but on top of all that I've been optimistic. If you always look at the... glass as half full you'll never get a real chance to count your blessings. Friends, family, not living in a third world country where they don't even have an opportunity to complain through facebook or even eat. Always remember, at your darkest hour it can always be worse, just be greatful it isn't. Happy Thanksgiving friend, hope this helped "

Dude my advice to you is break up with this girl and learn how to not be a pussy. Sorry.

-Aiden

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