So I'm in the midst of the breakup of an almost 2 year relationship. Its tough and its my first real breakup with a girl I really adored. It was ended on her part because she claimed I stressed her out due to my family situation and my lack of effort in my own life (parents are divorcing and it was a messy one) which surprised me due to the lack of control I would have over those things.

Its been about 2 months and at first I was cold about it, didn't shed a tear and pretty quickly started going out and gaming new girls. Now I am at the point where I'm missing her and can't stop thinking of the good things as opposed to the bad things and lack of appreciation she showed to me. And in my head I want her back but know I am not thinking clearly...

She was the first to initiate contact after the breakup to clarify things between us and from then on she has been the one initiating and I have made no attempt to, but I did talk with her and not give her "short answers" but actually talked.

She texted me one night a week or 2 after the breakup to say she wished we could work out and I being angry said "ya but you said some hurtful things to me which affected the way I see you." She then said she regretted texting me and I said ya maybe later in the future we can talk and she replied "I dont think anytime will be good".

So far I have been trying to keep occupied with friends and other girls and I am not talking to her. I dont want to fall into a friendship with her and am definitely not ready because I still want her and I feel love for her.

And now I am stuck on what to do and how to handle myself. I know lots of you have gone through breakups and hopefully you guys can help me see things more clearly and give me some good information on breakups in general. They are definitely one of the shittiest things ever especially when they happen at bad times such as mine.

Done, done and done man. I remember reading a pua guide to a breakup and I have been doing what I remember but its definitely not something that I can "avoid" (not ideal wording) super easy.

You are not truly getting over a person by throwing things away. Neither if you start dating other people.

You need to have a life apart from relationships and sex. You need goals in your life and hobbies and interests.

I found it much easier to get over someone if I was putting more effort into sports and staying out of home and pursuing goals rather than deleting things.

It is a more natural/normal way to keep your mind occupied and you don't need to suppress any feelings. Which they will return back to you at some time as they did right now!

go out have fun be more fun and sociable. try to do things you havent done before. thats my basic cure

Thank you everyone for the helpful info and insight. I'm trying my best to better myself and make more time for me, but I'm still having thoughts and longing for her and I am not sure what to do. I feel like contacting her and kind of spilling my feelings and trying to get her back, but I know that could most likely hurt any chances I may have. I could talk to her sisters and tell them whats happening, and surely they would tell her something which could be good or bad. Can anyone help me with this?

If you talk to her sister, about her , or talk about your feelings she will tell her, she will know that you want to come back or atleast that the message that her sister will sent her. And this is dangerous, mainly because she can do whatever she wants because she knows you are still waiting. She was the one to breakup if she wants you back she will have to fight. Just live normaly and if you see her try and play it cool and nice(I know its hard).

Believe Im on the same boat but I constantly see my ex- girlfriend, breakups are hard. but this breakup was the best things that happen to me, change alot about me and how i perceive myself I still love her, I still miss her everyday , its struggle everytime i see her try not to demonstraste i still have feelings.

but every girl is replaced , yours and mine are not that special believe me. Im not saying to quit her im just saying to stand your ground if things are meant to be she will come back to you if not there alot of fish in the oceans. But GL hope you get your girl back.

Thanks man, thats some solid stuff that helps. I'm still bouncing from thoughts of her and being down and being better and trying to get back into the social scene. Hard to do for sure but its going.