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PostPosted: Fri Sep 17, 2010 4:32 pm 
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The only chance for her not to come back is if has nothing good to remember from you which does not sound as the case.
That is not true.
There are lots of reasons why she won't come back,probably she won't do it now either.Usually it's because she realizes she doesn't get what she want out of the relationship.Not to talk about the case you mentioned,about moving on with another man...I very much doubt they'll get back together after that.
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When you are friends with an ex a clever move and you have just pressed the restart button.
Yes,but an ex is a ex for a reason.Are you gonna change your mindset or hers in a couple of weeks ?
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If there is communication and they can talk, nothing is lost.
Your optimism is very worm,but idk how realist it is.
Rather tell him he'll find someone better,and this experience is something he will learn from(which is very more likely)


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Its obvious from your post that u were trying everything to make the relationship workout, even as AFC-like it may be, there is one hard lesson u got to force yourself to learn over this incidence, "MOVING ON". Dating her for about a year or so may seemed a waisted time to u but no doubt its also enough period to learn valuable lessons about handling or dealing with a woman or women. Loving a woman is good, But also loving and losing out is also good. U have to learn how to draw lines, not with ultimatums, but the will to proceed with your life and learn from your mistakes.

If u had taken time to get to know the 2 girls u refused to kiss, maybe something interesting could have comes up. You said "there is no other girl compares to her", I got news for u bro, experience has thought me that every woman is unique their own way, get to know another girl very well and this girl u are whining about would have a chance to get u back.

If u are sure she is bent on this break up thing, tell her u cherished the period both of u spent together and prepare to live with her decision and move on with your life too, wish her goodluck, period. Break up is break up.


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PostPosted: Fri Sep 17, 2010 7:44 pm 
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I will have to disagree a bit with the moving on if he gets her back as a friend.

When you are friends with an ex a clever move and you have just pressed the restart button. :wink:

You just have to find out what truly happened and the relationship broke.

Was it because of boredom? incompatibility? low attraction? What was the true problem?

Even if she moved on to another man if she had a point that she had connection with this guy or some good memories that she could not forget then it is easy to get back together.

It is only needed a clever handling and making sure that the problem of breaking up is fixed and not going to return back.

If there is communication and they can talk, nothing is lost.
Girl, clearly this guy is REALLY into this chick. There is no way in world that he will accept a regular friendship with her. It's too painful for him, I guarantee you that.

So if she only wants to be friends, I strongly suggest that he stops killing himself slowly by accepting that offer and living like that. It's not that simple..

In this specific situation, I would recommend that he rather moved on.


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From this point of view yeah you are right. It will be his emotions that will not let him think.

However, I was not talking about a week's time. I was talking about 4-6 months of no contact.

The more he calls her and talks to her right now the more he is pushing her away and cutting any chances of possible reconnection.


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Read Fire in The Belly.

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 Post subject: im in the same situation
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I am losing my fucking mind. it has been almost 3 weeks since we have seen each other. I am 24 6' 5" i work out and I am good looking. We have dated for 1 year. through this relationship when asked i would tell people i had a girlfriend when she was asked she would reply that she was "talking to someone." this drove me crazy! recently it was her birthday, I was so excited! on her birthday she told me she was only hanging out with her girlfriends going to a club, i asked if we could go out the next day she replied she was going out with her girlfriends again and again i was not invited. we went out sunday night before she had to work in the morning so no drinking. she ended up texting through the whole dinner. I lost it the next day and told her we were done, I have never been invited to hang out with her and her friends even thought all her friends bring their boyfriends. I realize i should be happy its over and feel like a piece of shit writing how badly ive been treated but now i want her back and im fucking crying myself to sleep and drinking every fucking day. I went a week without calling her and today i lost it. I called crying about how good we had it and it was good when it was working. she replied that she does not want any kind of relationship and would love to be friends with me. i cant be fucking friends she keeps trying to push the friendship thing while we never started out as friends. I dont know what to do she wont see me she said i freaked her out when i just showed up at her house... i've only done that once. i had a serious gf 3 years ago we had dated for 4 years and broke up i swore i would never feel like this about a girl again and now i am. im fucking crying writing this i dont know what to do i thought this was the one and we would get married she's texting me she doesnt want any kind of relationship but if she meets someone then she'll see what happens. im going crazy. im to old to be feeling like this i reread the Game im trying to get back out in the club scene but we fucking work together and life 5 minutes apart i run in to her all the fucking time. I dont know what to do i need her back but i think i blew by telling her how shes an awful person now everytime we talk she tells me how its different now and she doesnt have any of these feelings for me anymore. SHE CHANGED HOW SHE FELT AFTER ONLY 2 WEEKS!! prior to me blowing up she said everything was fine... im losing it im fucking crying myself to sleep, i have MCATs and shit to study for but all i can think about is her and how my life is permanetly fucked up.... help


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First of all it is not right to write a post like this in another post. I think it is against the rules. However what I want to say is that:

She was not into you since the beginning. What it hurts is not that you lost her. It is your ego that it hurts.

You got angry because you got hurt. Your ego got hurt.

You better leave this thought out of your mind for a while because you are going to get hurt even more if you fail.

The best thing you can do right now is to forget about her. I know it hurts but you don't deserve this kind of SPAM.
There are girls out there that they wish they had someone having all those feelings for them. And you are just wasting them on this girl.


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Yeah, this is a really hard thing, but you have to put yourself in the mindset that you can pursue other interests, and as style says:

"have something else going for you", whether your personal hobbies, or whatnot, keep yourself busy with something.


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PostPosted: Sun Oct 24, 2010 4:42 am 
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I agree with the public, the panic in your voice tells me you don't have a prayer with this woman, time to move on. :s


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