my girl will play games like not text me for a few days to see how long it will take for me to talk to her. i saw her on facebook and sent her a cute message and she got mad telling me about her game and how i never tried to talk to her so i must not care. she also know i went clubbing two of the nights. another time i said i couldnt hang with her and she was like im busy the next few nights so i cant see her until the weekend so i was like ok and shes like have a fun week trying to keep the convo going and im like you too just being like it doesnt bug me. im trying to be the busy guy and push and pull but she says i dont care about her. am i doing right i dont know how to act in a reationship i just dont want to come off as needy. im 20 she 22 we date for 4 months.

About 90% of this forum seems to be about men playing games, and now ur complaining yr gf is doing the same thing, you are both exactly the same as each other, scared of seeming needy, both pretending you dont even care, using facebook as a relationship interface, both pretending to be sooo superbusy and not even bovered. This whole PUA thing probably works to start with but once youve got yr girl it doesnt seem to help you at all, and her games arent helping either. why dont you just both get honest with yourselves and each other? it seems you cant for fear of seeming Needy...

So ok about Needy...there is a huge difference between being needy and caring about someone and wanting to be in a relationship with them. its about
* were you already happy in yourself BEFORE you met them?
* and do you know honestly in your heart that if the relationship ended you could still call yourself happy?
*and could you envisage yourself meeting another person and carrying on with your life if they dumped you?

If you can answer yes to all those questions then you wont be needy. Needy is about needing the other person to make you 'happy' because you werent before you met them and you couldnt cope if they finished with you.

If you think you fall into the Needy category, even if you take great pains not to show it to your gf, then really you shouldnt even be in a relationship cos you are not a whole and happy person, you are just using the relationship as a crutch.

If you are not happy in this relationship, talk to her honestly and without fear of being needy, and if it doesnt get better then leave. If that scares you, then by definition you are needy and for your own benefit you should leave the relationship, grow up, face and deal with your issues (they will stay till you deal with them eventually anyway - your relationship crutch is only disguising them so you dont feel them), raise your own self esteem make yourself whole and happy, and only then are you ready for a relationship as a grown man that you can enter without any fear of seeming needy.

sorry if this seems harsh but its the truth

hahaha fuck, that was a really good post. i have alot to think about thx bro!

ariana's advice was exactly what I had in mind reading your post, just better phrased

Tel your girlfriend that there's no need to play games at this point, and that you could be playing them too - but you choose not to. Don't play games yourself either. If she continues, dump her