Okay guys, I need some advice. I have hit a serious slump here. I have been doing this several years now. At first it was just about picking up as many women as I could. Well I got better and better at that and I then realized that I wanted something more.

Now before anyone starts saying anything about one-itis blah blah blah, let me stop you. I got into this to get this part of my life handled. I wanted to be able to go out and meet women, talk with them, pick them up, go out with them, take them home, whatever I wanted. Well I have taken care of that part of my life and can easily do that. My problem now is that trying to make those relationships into something more rarely works out. Actually, in my case it usually goes well a few months then blows up in my face.

Anyways, I was dating one girl recently and I got blown off for no reason that I can understand. It has been awhile since I have had this happen to me. I am usually the one that moves on and not the other way around. Needless to say it gave me quite a shot. Whats worse is that I am really trying to make it work with the women I date now because I am getting tired of the game and am really looking for more now.

Now it is not the end of the world that this girl blew me off. It was far from perfect and although we had fun, it most likely would not have lasted. However, it has just set me into a serious depression. Not because of her, but because it seems I am stuck in a cycle of bad relationships and now that I want more, it hurts every time. I guess I just don't have the venues to meet the women that would be good partners. It is rare to meet a girl at the bar/club that I have anything in common with other than a healthy sex-drive.

I am 34 and most of my friends are settling down and a lot of the friendships I still maintain are somewhat menial. I am feeling really depressed and need some advice on how to snap out of it. I already have plans to go out and nail a few girls this weekend and I'm sure that will help but I want a solution to move forward. I guess relationship game is way different than pickup game.

Thanks for reading and any advice/input you can provide.

I feel you, man.

I've suffered from depression too; I went fairly mentally unstable for a short period of time which lead to some shit I couldn't handle.

If you look at some of my articles i've written shit very similar to yourself. I've had TOO many bad experiences with girls i'd prefer to go out with rather than have a fling in a nightclub with every now and again.

I currently meet a girl in a club who I want to get to know more and she flakes ALL THE TIME. And its frustrating, not for the fact that she doesn't want to but for the fact that theres hundreds of girls i meet who wanna take it to the next level; and the one that i want myself to go out with and have a wicked relationship with has no interest what so ever.

At this stage in my life I feel you've just got to let it flow, these women come and go in life, and the ones in which will make you happy are the ones in which will repay the same effort you invest in order to make it work.

Keep your head up; It'll soon come.

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It is true that I do go after the ones that seem to be flaky. I have to wonder if I self-sabotage by going after these women. It is easier for me to offer commitment to someone that is not emotionally available.

I guess I need a new venue to meet women with similar interests and relationship goals.

You could still possibly meet LTR in bar/clubs etc, but possibly when gaming screen them better? find out if they are trustworthy, faithful, loyal etc by a bit of screening and even by the stories they tell you, if they talk about going out etc, you know they are not what you are looking for but if they just so happen to be out on a friends birthday and are really the sit at home, and work ethic person, maybe you have a chance? Thing is, most club/bars do tend to be filled with the girls that love going out etc, but you do always get a few which arnt like that. But even when you do meet the girls who go out, fair enough you may not totally change them to sit at home wifes but possibly you could evolve from game to relationship by the things you do. There is a differance between Pick Up and relationships, and that is security, every girl looks for security in a guy although sometimes PUA advice doesnt give any security and makes the girl too cautious, so they sometimes think " this guy is too much a cocky dickhead to allow myself to fall for". Sometimes being the sweet charming man can change a pick up to a relationship, but thats obviously after the pick up and game.

I definitely hear yeah there. I am in a bit of a depression myself. Really the only thing you can do is just keep trying and see what works out for you. I'd consider each blowoff as a lesson to detect these types of women. I'd also consider taking some time off from women and take some time out for yourself like getting to the gym and work on your look. Do something nice for yourself and you'll feel better.