How do you maintain a spark in a relationship. Prior to the relationship, the spark was ignited. She was txting me all kinds. Now 2 weeks in, it has died down. However, whenever we fight, that spark gets ignited again. Is there anyway to maintain that spark, without fighting or something... Or is it normal for relationships to calm down, compared to right before the relationship?

judging by the fact that you seem dissapointed by her not texting you as much, i'm willing to bet that you're also displaying a bit of neediness towards her (pulling too much).

keep in mind push/pull. i think you might have pulled a little too much. sometimes it's good to push away a lil bit to keep the relationsihp interesting. a lot of the things that were true for a pua before a relationship are still true in the relationship. once in a relationship, sometimes the natural reaction is to let go and be afc, but this is not a good idea. try to stay balanced and keep the relationshp balanced.

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The spark of constant contact often does drop once in a relationship, and one reason in my eyes is the comfort barrier. Your there, you made it, she's yours etc, and your no longer trying to please her/

Just have to not speak so often every minute, save conversation for the evening, brief, "how was your day?" "What happened?" Ask random questions aswell to keep it fresh.

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