please don't take the title to literally

OK guys. I'm in a bit of a two way junction here. I have a regular Fuck Buddy since march. We had a short relationship. I broke up. She suggested the FB thing. We agreed that as soon as someone would find regular relationship material. The FB thing is off.

Now I have been reading David Shades secrets of Female Sexuality and used the material on her. And I have got to say. GREAT STUFF! However as the sex intensified so did the mutual feelings.

The point is that I do not want this. I am attracted emotionally and sexually to my FB, but do not think it has a future. Now here is what we discussed just after having a sexually explosive weekend:

Bucc:soon its gonna be holiday season. I am really looking forward to it...
FB: will you be faithfull? I mean, what if you meet that really cool girl?
Bucc: well... I'm gonna go for it if things go the way they go...
FB: -saying nothing-
Bucc: we had an agreement about that remember
FB: No way, this agreement is long gone. You wouldnt like it if I did it either...

I agreed with her just to avoid a fight. To be honest, yes it would hurt if she'd do it to me, but then I would know its within the rules of an agreement that I badly wanted. But If I'm on a holiday, I'm gonna game. And if I get succesful, so be it.

What should I do with this? I'm thinking just take my chances on my holiday and depending on the result take it from there. On the other hand I want to recapture the frame I had, like I had in the beginning of the FB-ship and tell her its over cause its getting to compulsive and we can always have contact later this year or something.

If there are any guys with some experience on this, please let me know how to handle this.

thanks a lot in advance

Buccaneer

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I could not tread these perilous paths in safety, if I did not keep a saving sense of humor. -Admiral Horatio Nelson

I may be a bastard... In fact I am pretty sure that I am.

Game on man! As long as you havent made any promises that she will find out that you break it is gonna be ok.

The morality of the situation is up to you, I am not gonna judge you.

I have had similar experiences on some occasions and I have solved it by either not telling and not doing, not telling but doing and telling and doing.

Telling and doing only works if your frame is strong enough. And if the girl thinks that it is worth it. Yeah, I know it hurts babe but thats how it is. I do what I want and I assume you will do the same. This is the deal, same rules apply to her too, otherwise it wont work.

Not telling and not doing works if you are gonna be a good boy and patiently wait for her in a monestry kinda way. But you are a PUA and you are gonna sarge. You wrote it yourself so...

Not telling and doing. Has worked. But it only works as long as she doesnt know about it. It is a game with high stakes. If you are gonna play you need to accept that you may lose.

I am not saying that you are doing the right thing, not at all. But I am saying that it is the way that I have solved things in the past and I have gotten away with it...

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Enjoy the holiday, and what goes on away, stays there.

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Been there, done it, oh and still doing it!

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Game on, pick up the FB pieces later... she wants a relationship with you? she has to STATE that and risk the FB status... she didn't, so she gets none of the relationship rewards.

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If you want to know how to be successful with women, learn to obediance train your dog...

well for any who wants to read it: heres an update.

I had my holiday and partied good. Only on one of the last days at a festival in Germany I kiss-closed a girl during a concert. She wanted crowdsurfing, and I told her to frenchkiss me first. Really lame in retrospect.

Right after the holiday me and my FB wanted it badly. So we met up only a few hours after my arrival back home. She asked me if had kissed or fucked any women.

I told her honestly.

she went quit.

I told her that we should talk.

She started talking and admitting she was hurt. She said my behaviour (texts, weekends we spent togheter) made her fall in love and she thought that what she had hoped for ( a relationship) was already there in our minds. I tould her it was just a f-ed up emotinal puzzle I want going to finish. So I formally broke up a relationship that officially didn't exist. It was a good thing in retrospect, cause we both were emotinally very strong about the whole thing. We even did the crying in each others arms etc... etc...

whats done is done. Back to the game.

thanx for your help lads.

greetz

tha Bucc.

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I could not tread these perilous paths in safety, if I did not keep a saving sense of humor. -Admiral Horatio Nelson