Okay well, Cranberry it's great you've realised you've become a better person and don't want to go back.
But that wasn't the reason for you first post.
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alright so the last time i had intercourse with a girl was well over a year ago. but i'm here, not to complain, but to talk about why this circumstance isn't so bad.
i think a lot of the time we're under the impression that if we don't have a steady GF, or are fucking someone, that something is going wrong. For me though, that's bullshit. I can say with confidence, that I am doing the best i ever have, and yet I have not touched a girl in a long time.
This part is fair enough. You're posting to tell yourself that you feel better about where you're at, and maybe you're looking for outside opinion to help you feel validated about this.
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maybe someone older can give me some enlightenment, i mean, i'm 22, and I'm at the point where I just am not going to lower myself to get with a girl. in other words, not to dis PUA tactics or anything trust me, i'm not going to act like anything but myself. I'm confident with who i am, and i feel no reason to change that up so I can hook up with some biddy.
and i do talk to girls openly, just as openly as with my bros. and Idk, i'm at the point where I'm going to be myself around girls, and not try to impress them or get anything from them; i'm sure this makes sense to someone. and i'm sure someone can offer me a different p.o.v...not the porno POV!! for all you sickos out there about to send me some GAY links!
Here you talk like you COULD have had sex, if you employed some cheap tricks. When the reality is, you're not sure if those same cheap tricks would work for you. So it's better to act like you're "above" it. The last line about sicko's sending you gay links is a bit over the top, but I get the hint - you're trying to step above it. This is an emotionally driven line. There's a lot of emotion tied to this issue, of course there is - it would be mortifying to see some cheap tricks work for someone, and not you. What would be so defective about you if the cheap tricks didn't work for you?
The cheap tricks don't work by themselves, and you're secretly looking for the answer. What makes the difference, why does it work for someone and not someone else.
No cheap trick has ever worked for anyone - the only thing that matters is attraction, and the things that generate attraction cannot be faked - they must be practiced, all the time. This doesn't mean changing yourself - it means improving yourself. You still have the same body but you can build muscle and become sexy and ripped. Same thing with your mind.
I'd wager that although you're very positive now, you're wondering why you're not getting sex. And I'd venture that if you talk to girls the same way you talk to your brothers, you're coming across as a friend and not a sexual being. This says to me that you need to work on your sexual side. Girls have to feel sexual when you interact with them, otherwise they'll never want to enter a romantic relationship with you or even have a one night stand.
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