ok so my girlfriends friend keeps flirting with me then yesterday I had a fight with my girlfriend and I call her friend. she tells me to come to her place. i was a bit drunk. she comes all the way to meet me at the station and then we walk to the house. i'm explaining all about the fight and saying i'm not happy. we go back to her place and i'm still going on about the problems and saying i'm not sure i can love anyone. then she calls my girlfriend to tell her i'm in her place. i reckon she wantss to break us up. i sleep in same bed but nothing happens. i try to get it on but she asks me to leave. whats she playing at and how can i turn this around. i want to be with her. i decided its worth ruining my relationship. any advice plz

Wow you're skating on thin ice here buddy! So maybe some advice from a girl may help.
She is probably naturally a flirty girl - a lot of girls are. I am always friendly with my boyfriend's friends and even have some inside personal jokes with them and yeh flirting does come out a little bit but it would never actually escalate to anything because I wouldn't do that to him and neither would his mates.
Did you ever think of the other option? That she wants to be loyal to her friend by telling her friend you were there? I mean you say nothing happened so obviously she doesn't want you to cheat on her friend and I think she is trying to protect her friend.

I hope this has helped a little.

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yes thank you for the reply and I believe you are right in a lot of ways. she recently broke up with someone else and I think before I moved here to live with my girlfriend they were always spending time together. now I think she wants to break us up and to be honest I want to have sex with her. anyway the mood has been spoilt and honestly I think my chances are gone.

I called my girlfriends friend because she is the only person I know in this city other than my girlfriend and I thought she was going to have some fun with me as we get on way better than I do with my girlfriend.

but as always I made a bad choice. thing is my girlfriend just accepted that I slept with her best friend and next day - she says "I cant stay mad at you" . like WTF. anyone else would have threw my bags out the door. :/

dont know what to do. how do I patch things up with her friend. she was crying a week before saying how much she'll miss me when i go as I'm going for 3 months

First of all being drunk is not an excuse at all...a drunk mans actions are a sober mans thoughts. I truly beleve that when somone is drunk their real colors shine through and you can see what their moral standing really is!

One time I was at a bar with somone people, I was wasted! I mean really drunk! and my gf's friend tried to sleep with me...I was extremely atracted to her! (hb 10) and what did I do? I told her I loved my gf and would never cheat on her and the next day I let my gf know what her friend had done.

p.s do you really want to be with a women who puts her self in those kind of situations? if she is willing to be with you over one of her friends do you really think she is going to be a good gf? or faithful? I dout it! she will cheat on you and leave you in the dust...its a game to her.

bad move man.

One other thing and I want anyone who s reading this to listen because I keep saying this and it doesnt seem to sink in for alot of guys:

WOMEN DONT THINK LIKE MEN AT ALL! WHAT MEAKES SENS TO YOU WILL NOT MAKE SENS TO HER AND WHAT MAKES SENS TO HER WONT TO YOU.

Men think more with the logical part of the brain and men more with the emotional, creative side of the brain. What this means is men and women think very diffrent! it would make sens to you that her asking you to come over means she likes you right? just common sens? well women dont think like men and perhaps she was just making an emotional decision? mabey she had no intent at all of sleeping with you?

The reason most men fail with women is because they think like a man...dont think "what would I do" think "what would a women do."

all valid points. but to the other guy. i said i just wanted to have sex with her and if it cost my relationship thats it. i'm 29 , my gf is 19 and her friend 19. i'm pretty sure she wanted it but i was too drunk and ruined it. and now its soured. but anyway i live on and had a great night out with another girl friend(space intended). so moral of the story is get over it i think. i ruined my chance and it aint goina come back. my gf believes the sun shines out of my ass so she will believe me all the time. i think i'll just have to forget bout shaggin her mate unless someone has advice

Dont take offence to this but you dont you think thats al little insensitive? You sound like a shitty bf to be honest lol your gf thinks the world of you and would prob do anything for you and you are sneaking around her back trying to bang her friends...think about how you would feel if your gf slept with one of your friends?

Perhaps your a really nice guy but as a bf you seem to be very selfish...whats the point of a relationship if your going to cheat and break the poor girls heart at some point...the only way cheating is ok is if you are in an open relationship and you both agree on it and even that its kinda sketchy! most open relationships fail.

Think long and hard about what you want and if you want to be with this girl long term...if not cut her loose and do her a favour.

yep I think its the right thing to do. i'll sort it out

So you're not asking relationship help..
You're asking how to have sex with a girl...
On the relationships forum...

well its still a relationship related question really. but i've given up the goat. best to come clean, cut loose and move on.

You don't mention what kind of relationship you and your girlfriend have, but it seems to me the bigger issue here is that you're lying to and cheating on her.

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No one wants to hear the truth they want to be reassured that what they are doing is ok and when they see that 90% of the people dont agree with them they thhink "No no Im right you are all wrong".

being a pua doesnt mean being an ass hole...its like they say with great power comes great responsibility...Could I cheat on my gf with out her finding out? of course I could and I could do it with many diffrent women but I dont because Im a good bf and I care about her and carma will come to bite you in the ass!

If I was about the cheat I would break up with my gf and let her know that I wasnt invested in the relationship anymore...that would be the mature and fare thing to do...again its your relationship but put your self in her shoes.