So, me being with my girlfriend, for exactly a month now ...
There are times when I get insecure about myself (But I don't let her know)
Anyways, the thing is... that all day long while I'm working I would be thinking to myself what she is doing ... Like ... if she's out ... if she's taking care of the nephew, if she's at home, or whatever ... I'm constantly thinking about her, and what she might be doing, I even keep track of football games to see if she might be out with her friends etc...
She doesn't go out much ... and when she goes out, its to see a friend ... or watch a game... etc...
I see her every day at school.. but we only go out on weekends, she can't go to clubs and that kind of "world" because its a dangerous city and her mom doesn't let her.
Anyways, I always have this thoughts on my head, as to what she might be doing, or with who she could be.. and its really bothering me...
I don't want to think about it, because then I start to imagine even stupidier things like she could be with a guy, or even cheating on me (I know its pathetic) ...
A friend says Im insecure about myself, and that I may not fully trust her yet... Even though I know she wouldn't do such a thing, I've known her for a while, and she HATES Unfaithfulness, like hate it ....
Im sure someone else has felt like this ... I just want to know how to get around it :S

Your friend is right - you are totally insecure about yourself and you obviously do not trust her fully yet. When one begins a new relationship and they really like the person they are with, of course they will be thinking about them all the time. I have been there - when me and my boyfriend first started going out I was slighlty worried when he wasnt with me and he was the same when I went out without him. Over time, we learnt to trust each other - it was pretty hard seeing as we have both been betrayed by past partners and it does leave a scar. However, you just have to try and force yourself to trust her. You will get there in time... If it is really bothering you, maybe speak to her about it and try and see how she feels and stuff. Anyway hope this helps good luck!

I love when you answer my posts...
You always help!! Thanks!! ....
And its glad to see I'm not the only one!!! I trust her ...
I sometimes also wonder if she's the same with me as with everyone, and I actually asked her once, if she was always like this and she said yes.. She's very... special... she doesn't like the sun hitting on her face, she doesn't like to walk, she doesn't like certain foods that have "hair" or "things"... And I see... thats why we're together, I'm very hard to treat... probably we're the only ones that can stand each other.
But thanks for your post, it made me realize I'm not alone, I'll just stick to positive thoughts!
Thanks!!

Man i came to this forum tonight to find something quite like this. Girl i started seeing literally like 5 days before she left town for the summer... We SPAM and stuff but its just really hard. I know u guys are gunna think im so lame here but...

when i dont hear from her for days, i cant stop thinking of what shes doing...
when she doesnt reply to my texts for long periods of time, i wonder what shes doing...
i think ive come to the point where im advanced at body language and literally 2/3 of my game is kino, and i cant do that, and to make things even worse, she messed up her webcam, so i cant look at her face when skyping her...

This isnt the first girl ive successfully picked up but i connect with her so well!


also... Do u guys feel like you have to think ahead of dates to make sure theres always a path that can be taken that she would enjoy? i find it very hard to just go with the flow with her, afraid of boring her!

She doesnt know this tho, like i said, good at body language...

I'm glad I'm not the only one.
Over the course of this weeks, I feel I'm more in control of this thoughts, though they're not gone yet.
I'll tell you I think its just a matter of time, at the beginning I was very afraid to text her(I still am) mainly because she is soooo cold when texting and Instant Messaging, so I try to avoid it. What I realized is that it was insecurity from my part, and from hers also, feeling that I wasn't so sure about her and not trusted her. Over the course of the weeks, our communication has gotten better. I trust her more, and so does she.
Sometimes she takes up to 30 mins to answer a text with a one line answer, which gets me a little down, but during the time I wonder what she might be doing.
Im sure with time, as we get closer those thoughts will dissapear.
Now, on your last question.
Its weird though, most of our dates are like we go to a place... then when the event ends, we just hang around in a park.
This saturday, we were at some swings at a park, then when I was driving her home she was like "its too early" so we drove around taking pictures of the moon, and we stopped to see a new mall until it was like 12 o clock which was already a good time to drop her off.
Thing is, I always have something to talk about.

yep ....

you unconciously assigned her a mother role, a psychological ''problem'' from growing up.
because you are afraid she will leave you or won't give you attention you tend to push her out of your reality by coming up with strange thoughts.
im not in the mood to write a 10 paged story ..... have you grown up without a dad ?

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Wow dude, you are very good at interpereting stories, Im almost sure this guy is from a single mother home. I know this because I am exactly the same as him ( I was when i was an AFC ) When my ex girlfriend left i felt as if I had no one left to show me love and nurture me. This is exactly what my case was like and exactly how i felt.