Without getting caught up in the "us" aspect of a relationship? This isn't about gaming. This is a question of what to do once I open up to her. I've been going through a very rough time, and it's hard to talk to her about it, and it's also hard to know how to be in a relationship while facing this shit. Any words of wisdom would be most appreciated.

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I don't understand this. Please explain.

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(1) Find something that you are passionate about besides the relationship. Maybe your career? Physique? A hobby? A sport? Art? Anything that you can pursue or be competitive in.

(2) Talk to other girls. This isn't about being able to hook up with other girls on the side but rather, to help you realize that even if you and your girlfriend don't work out, it's not the end of the world and you WILL find someone better. It's a self destructive mentality to think that your girlfriend is your soul mate or that she is the only girl that will ever make you happy

(3) Set goals for yourself every day. Short term and long term. That way, you will always have something to focus on besides your relationship

There are a lot of other things you can do, but I hope that helped

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my advice, from my personal experience, is that unless you have been with her for a long time AND she is a very compassionate person, do not dump your problems on her. That is what therapists are for.

AFC's think that part of the role of women in their lives is to offer them emotional support. I do not deny that having a good relationship is a form of emotional support, but do not expect to lean on her emotionally.

Women will sometimes beg you to tell them what is wrong, but that is one of those classic backwards situations that occur with women. Sometimes if you do what they say, it causes them to lose attraction.

I believe that women can feel compassion for family and friends easily. Other than that don't expect a woman to be any more compassionate than a man.

Compassion and Attraction do not go together in a woman's mind, so if you are just a boyfriend be carefull.