Lately I've been feeling overly insecure with my relationship. I've fallen madly in love with my girlfriend (More then I ever wanted to) and because of it I'm really uneasy all the time since I only see my girlfriend about once or twice a week.

I I'm turning very AFC getting in fights with her because she's not coming home enough to see me or over little things like she drew a doodle of a guy friend of hers. I NEVER used to be like this and I just don't really know what has come over me but I've been having trouble controlling my emotions,

To make things worse there's a guy that she's been talking to a lot lately. Studying with, and I always am seeing text messages pop up on her phone with his name on them along with constant facebook posts from him on her wall. I think she just sees him as a friend but It is bothering me a lot that this guy is all over her. I don't really know what talking to her about it would do since she's obviously done nothing wrong but.. I feel like this guy is getting closer to her simply because he gets to see her more then me and I have a lot of tension building up inside of me because of it. I really don't want to pop on her and come off as some jealous chump but I feel like if this keeps going on something needs to happen

please help me out, i really need it.

chill out man...dont worry so much. If she did cheat there is nothing you can do other than leave her so until then just chill out.

If my gf cheated I would laugh at her and tell her im done and I would go find my self somone who knew what they have. In your eyes you should be number one! the alpha and the best thing she has...she has no reason to leave you because you are secure and confident in yourself and if any one views you diffrently it makes you laught...that how I see things in my relationship.

When you feel weak you act weak and women can smell it from miles away! whats it smell like? it smells like fear and afc...when you are confident and laid back women can sens that as well.

Dont worry so much just take things with a grain of salt...meet this guy, talk to him and be friendly, show her it doesnt bother you because you know you are number on in her life. Thats all you need to know...just stop being an afc chump and start taking control of your relationship.

p.s when she has time away from you and doesnt want to hang out tell her its ok and go do somthing eles...get a hobby, some friends. do somthing.

Victor Frankl survived the concentration camps with this simple philosophy "when we are no longer to change a situation - we are challenged to change ourselves."

Hope that helps.