Hi fellow PUA's,

I have been seeing this girl for about 6 months now, but for the 1st 2 months had a bf. Since just after xmas she has been single and we have been properly dating. I speak to her most days and we are only sexually involed with eachother...

The problem I'm having is she is a very powerful girl, she knows who she is and what she is all about and I feel its hard to get her to open up about how she is feeling.
I seem to bee putting quite a lot of effort in and sometimes feel like I'm going into AFC mode!
Going by her actions, she is being more responsive to me and has gone from doing nothing for me to doing somethings she knows I'd like! If I read into how she acts around me then I think we will probably get together at some point but its nice to hear how someone feels so I can judge where I stand? I really like this girl but feel a litle in the dark about where I stand with her. She sent me a random msg the other day saying to be patiant with her!its hard though as I am an impatiaint person as it is.I just want to open her up and get her to talk about us. Wtf shall I do as I feel I am also being gamed by a pro.

she's not.... you think she are and you feel intimidated , if you really accept yourself and if you really like yourself you can express your emotions freely. people who don't express themself and their creativity have a reason to not to. Non-needy or not expressing emotions doesn't mean value.
she doesn't know what she want, she switches from BF to BF - patience ? she should be patient herself ! she is probably not investing enough etc blablabla.

solution : don't treat it like a solid relationship and don't invest too much , invest as much as she does.

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You know what, your right mate. I like this girl though. She is a real down to earth decent girl,and this is the only problem I'm having. She is very non-needy and I think I am trying to hard with her. I do want to be with her I and feel like I have oneitis... As I did when I first set eyes on her.

If she had a bf when she first started dating you, then chances are that she's the type to do this. She maybe be keeping something from you and closes up b/c she feels that if she opens to much then she'd have to tell you the truth.

OR, maybe she doesn't want to open up too much and get hurt. Ask her directly about it.

The person who loves the least controls the relationship.

That being said, you've been in this relationship for 6 months so you can probably decide better than we can how to handle it.

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