I used to be really into PUA until I left for a girl I started dating,that i am still in a relationship with, (2 years ago) I find myself coming back to this site when i have problems with her, becuase honestly it is the best advice one can get.

My problem: the two weeks before spring break (last year of college) i barely saw of heard from my gf , she does have a pretty hard class load, then spring break hits and i see her non stop for a week, now that SB is over its been the same again. we had a great time over SB

Im not sure how and when i should contact her, I know she has time, but how can i make plans when she barely or if at all contacts me, im considering a classic freeze out, but don''t really want to do this. Ive called or texted her once a day for the last week (she has responded to all but 1 call) is that too much?

also i think i have become her permanent backup plan, iv gotten really into Bodybuilding and ive kinda stopped wanting to do most things that college students are into, i know i need to start being fun again or i will eventually loose her becuase she is going out to bars etc. without me

any advice would help, thanks

Maybe its just a bad time?
My gf and I have gone through times like these and its just the circumstances that make it the way that it is.

If not tho, just do what I always do when I fear that Im losing her.

First off, start being fun again. You identified the problem yourself so correct it. Im not saying be a party boy all the time, but take her out some times, break the cycle of mundane evenings. Familiarity breeds contempt.

Then work to build attraction again. The game as I see it is cyclical. its easy to lose attraction and interest and that happens when relationships have dragged on too long. You simply arnt a challenge anymore. Start to be one.

Change your mindset. See her as a girl you have to game. A new HB that you just number closed... OF COURSE SHE WONT CALL FIRST. Game her! Send her some cocky funny txts, flirt with her relentlessly, tease her, act independant, qualify then disqualify! When things are kinda boring with my gf and theres too much "I love you babyyy! omg me too! no way me more!!" it gets boring a bit, so I tease! I say things like "yeh well thats fine, I guess Il give my attention to other girls " just as a tease and shel joke around as well! Get her laughing again, flirt with her, let her feel the butterflies and trust me, before long, shel be thinking about you non stop, like if you just met and just fell in love.

Lemme know how it goes!

Mack

Time to start sarging and meeting new girls. Don't cheat, but sarge and give yourself some other options out there. That will raise your confidence and then you can flip the situation on her. Maybe she is starting to feel like she is the prize of the relationship. That you are the one who is lucky to have her, and I believe the frame should be the other way around.

Let's face it, if she is acting disinterested, a classic freeze out is definintly in order. But do you want to be the guy who changes because she wants to go to bars and do whatever? I you are alright with your girlfriend doing that, then it shouldn't be an issue.

I personally don't like girlfriends that do that. It pissed me off and I lose interest quickly. I expect my girlfriend to be into me and only me whatever I want to do and treat me with the utmost respect. If she doesn't I stop investing in her because it just isn't worth it to me. I only want relationships that are on my terms and when they start going south I just disapear.

That is my style. Now I get you've been together for a while but maybe it is time for a new girlfriend. Don't put up with mixed signals and games. It isn't worth it. I would just stop contacting her altogether, lead up to a break up and move on but I'm also an irrational compulsive player.

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Maybe its just a bad time?
My gf and I have gone through times like these and its just the circumstances that make it the way that it is.

If not tho, just do what I always do when I fear that Im losing her.

First off, start being fun again. You identified the problem yourself so correct it. Im not saying be a party boy all the time, but take her out some times, break the cycle of mundane evenings. Familiarity breeds contempt.

Then work to build attraction again. The game as I see it is cyclical. its easy to lose attraction and interest and that happens when relationships have dragged on too long. You simply arnt a challenge anymore. Start to be one.

Change your mindset. See her as a girl you have to game. A new HB that you just number closed... OF COURSE SHE WONT CALL FIRST. Game her! Send her some cocky funny txts, flirt with her relentlessly, tease her, act independant, qualify then disqualify! When things are kinda boring with my gf and theres too much "I love you babyyy! omg me too! no way me more!!" it gets boring a bit, so I tease! I say things like "yeh well thats fine, I guess Il give my attention to other girls " just as a tease and shel joke around as well! Get her laughing again, flirt with her, let her feel the butterflies and trust me, before long, shel be thinking about you non stop, like if you just met and just fell in love.

Lemme know how it goes!

Mack[/quote]


This is really good advice, thanks

Last night she went out with the "girls," i violated every rule in the book, it was pathetic, i am very ashamed. i am planning two courses of action at this point, i made tentive plans to go out with her tonight, she said we'll "try," i got mad and told her to "plan on" it

plan one: text her tonight asking her to go out
plan two: dont text her and begin freeze out till wednesday or so
if plan one does not work, ill begin a different freeze out

i do want to take her out and have some fun i just need the opportunity