Hey everyone, I will keep this broad and quick.
I met a girl this summer and we connected very quickly off the bat. WE currently go to the same college. It took a couple of months for us to be official/ in acknowledgement of one another(which meant no other people involved.)

Things progressed and we became quite close.
This girl is a virgin, and till this day (6 months after) I have not had sex with her yet.
We've done other things, just not sex yet.
Reason being, my house is always with my parents there, same with hers.

As soon as we took the next step, things got more complicated.
As an Iranian-Canadian, I grew up in an Iranian home, as I've taken some basic Psych courses, it is clear that the home you grow up in shapes what kind of person you become. In our culture, the men are totally controlling and over-protective.

So as you can imagine, I began being over protective. No insecurities, just the principle that sometimes I wouldnt like her going to the club with her friends, and I would yell at her and we would argue week in and week out.

After a series of fights and complications, things started getting steady. And we told each other we loved each other. Now looking at this situation from birds eye view, It seems quite real that we havent had sex yet and we can say that to one another.
This girl is something special, but she is a very good looking girl, I did not like other guys giving her attention. But as of now, we have been kind of cold the past 2 weeks.

"I don't want to have to keep worrying about these fights" was what she said.
The main reason for our fights was my over controlling mentalitiy, which lead to her being scared to hang out with me. SO NOW, after all we been through she says that she wants to take the pressure off. Obvs she isnt breaking up with me but the good things I have shown her has been outweighed by the bad. So now I must get her to
A.) Want to spend more time with me
B.) Feel that trust I have for her
C.) Feel Happy

How do I accomplish these goals without seeming too needy? I am currently workign on the anger issues with a series of books and workshops which I have attended on anger.

I just need her to get back to what she was feeling for me before, because I know for a fact that she will not forget about me, as we are still in contact.
How do I show her i've changed? How do i get her to want to chill with me?

Plz help, as this girl is quite important to me.
Thanks

Seems like your already figuring this whole thing out by yourself. The rest comes easy if your willing to work for it.
Im sure you have a vague idea of how to answer your own questions, just muster up the courage and go for it

A) You realise the only reason she isn't is because of your controlling mentality. Currently, you are working on that. Let her know that you are doing that, she'll appreciate that

B) She will feel this, once the next opportunity comes up where she expects you to be controlling and overprotective. You will surprise her by letting her go, because you know that she has never left you

C) Easy, she will realise your input into the relationship and that you are investing so much of yourself into to. She will love you for it

However, the no sex issue probably wont be resolved here..

I wish you all the best mate. It sounds like this girl is very special to you. Do you best to let her know how much you mean to her