I've learnt lots about the concept of being Alpha in a Relationship, however, learning to maintain the Alpha stance on life is something I think will be quite hard to develop, but I will develop it (and have done so massively compared to how I was 6 months ago).

However, for me this is the biggest part of PU - inner game comes with time, I know I can't learn it, however I know I can be guided towards learning it.

So I was hoping we could discuss ways of how to always maintain your Alpha stance during a Relationship. Firstly I want to talk about the concepts, how you 'should' act, what it is that defines you as an Alpha Male and keeps you interesting. Next I'd like to talk about specifics: how often do you initiate contact before you let them do it, things like that.

1) Being Alpha

What is it that makes someone Alpha ? Is it all about doing exactly what you want to do when you want to do it (within legal/moral grounds) and telling those who don't wish to do it with you to 'k-off ?

An Alpha will always say his true thoughts where appropriate - he does not let anyone disrespect him. He never lets his emotions take over - never gets angry, always stays calm and will happily point out when he doesn't like something and state to his GF that it should stop.

An Alpha basically takes no shit and no disrespect and never apologises for his actions unless they were legally/morally wrong.

Is this the true mindset of an Alpha ? Am I missing something ?

2) Specifics

Phone Calls: Should the GF initiate every call, should the Alpha, should it be 50/50 ? Should you only call when you generally have something to say ? If you've called the past two times, should you let her make the next one ?

Text Conversations: Same as above. Who initiates ? Should it alternate ? How quickly should you reply and who should send the last one.

'I love you': How often should it be said ? Only when you really feel it ? Who says it first ? Do you alternate ?

Dating: If a person says 'No' to a date - next time should you say No their suggestion ? And you should still do something fun on the night they say No ? If the person asks you for a date, you should never cancel other plans but if free can accept ?

Disrespectful: If the GF does something you do not like and you're 100% sure it is worth telling them (e.g. it's not your own personal inner game that's caused it to be a problem), you should remain calm and clearly tell them to stop the behaviour. If they continue it, how do you 'punish' them ?

Please discuss as much as this as you can, I'm a sponge willing to learn guidance which I can then use on developing my own inner game and becoming Alpha.

Many thanks,

Prophet

The answers to these questions can definitely help create for a healthy relationship..unfortunately I am only 17 and am extremely new to the seduction community but these answers will help with me and my girlfriend..I think that initiation of contact should be somewhat equal probably around 60-40 or 70-30 her, which i learned because it was 95-5 in my relationship and now i cant frreze her out because she doesnt even notice..

Good questions prophet. I've been thinking about this stuff too lately 'cause this is the first time in a "real" relationship for me since starting PU.

When you've been dating for 3+ months on a regular basis, I don't feel it matters so much who initiates. As long as you don't do it ALL the time and start sending pointless "miss u" txts every day I think u should be fine. What I've done is tried to change the frequence and amount of my calls/txts/whatever. Also,look up the "list of text messages game" or whatever thread.

What comes to feelings, you should take it real careful. So far I've been quite succesful with making her the one opening up to me,not the other way round. I also haven't answered any of her "deep" questions the way I expect she wants me to.

Something I would really like to hear tips for, is how do u keep urself mysterious and unpredictable while spending a lot of time with her? Some1 said I should make up "surprises" for her,not sure about that tho..

-Peak

btw, CLINGY is very important. Think about what you are doing with her, if clingy relates to it in any way then STOP and pull ur way back out. Probably the fastest way out of a relationship is to be clingy.

Dont forget that a relationship is different from a cold approach pickup.

A relationship is giving and taking. She is already attracted. Dont be a wuss and youll do fine.

An alpha male doesnt make a big fight out of nothing either. So what she gives you shit, be untouchable. Who cares. If you care and ignore it, you are a loser. If you dont care and ignore it you are better off. If you do care and tell her so, you are honest.

Saying that you love her... Just do it when it feels right.

What I do, in my relations, I do whatever I feel like. She chose me and its her right to chose someone else if she isnt strong enough to handle me. If I feel like having a beer with my buds then I expect her to respect that. I would of course do the same for her. Never ever make a big deal out of anything that is not worth it. Most things in life are not even worth the air it takes to fight about them.

So my question is if I am the boy should I pay for everything, even if I pay for something small like a tea? Me and my girlfriend we don't spend much money on expensive bars, but when we go she says to me "I don't have any money".
I don't know how to make her pay, because I can't pay everyday for her, because I don't think it is fair...but she told me "You are the boy, you should pay everytime", and I told her "Where did this rule came from? I don't think so..." she replied "Ask everybody and you will see", I said "I don't want/don't care...". I don't want to pay everytime, but also I don't what to say something to hear which will make me look like a weirdo.

Why would you ever pay for a girl that you have no relationship with. If she has deserved a place in your inner circle then thats ok. Thats the people you care about and protect. It should be an exclusive club. You cannot bribe her into liking you.

2) Specifics

Phone Calls: - If it's your girl, don't worry about it. If you're always checkin your phone you need to stop. just chill out. The texting and calling and waiting is a game thats played before you're dating.

Text Conversations: reply when you want to, that's Alpha. There should be no rules, no policy to follow, if you're following what someone else tells you to do (wait 20 min to reply to first message, then 5 min after every following text) then you're not alpha. no that's not a rule, I made it up to show how ridiculous it would sound. with me, I reply when I feel like it.
If you love her tell her when it feels right.
you punish them by cutting them off, Ignore them and the behavior.

What you need to do is read some books.

my number one suggestion for you is David Deida He will turn you into a man

The Way of the Superior Man is a MUST read

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