Okay as outlined here - break-up-getting-back-vt60250.html - I'm going through a break-up/grey area.

Background:

- Mate of mine, consistently tells me how much he thinks I'm a legend and how he's so glad he met me and I'm one of his best friends.
- He liked this girl (he likes anything that fucking breathes) and gets one-itis. Girl doesn't like him. I tried to tell him not to bother with her (cause I don't want him to get hurt).
- I end up having a Relationship with this girl .. wasn't planned. He's pissed, he tells me he's not but he tells others I fucked with him and lied to him so I could get her - complete bollax.

Current Situation:

- Since we've been going out he got over her.
- We continued to be good friends, he use to always say how much he liked me w/e.
- When breakup happened, he was 'there for me' - telling me how I had my best mates there for me and I needed to move on.
- To my other best mate, he's been calling my GF 'untrustworthy' and saying how he's 'glad' he didn't 'get with her'.
- Then to her, she's told me he's been saying stuff like 'We'd be so good together. It's down to you but I think we could give it a shot and be really great.'

What a two-faced wanker. Now she made me promise not to say that she told me, so I won't (I never break a promise). But now when he talks to me I've gone cold on him, I will NEVER trust him again or consider him a friend. Friends don't act two-faced around each other and try and get on a rebound with my girlfriend whilst I'm sat there hurting about the whole thing.

If I see him on Monday (which I will) and he will try and talk to me, what should I do ? I can't act friendly towards him, so I'm trying to ignore him. But tbh I just want to go and knock him the fuck out, but that's not gonna do my any social favours at all and will get me in trouble - he's not worth that. So, what's the most socially acceptable + beneficial way of dealing with this ?

Regards,

Prophet

The friend ...

There's a clear difference here - I had an intimate relationship and am genuinely hurting during a break-up.

He was never that attached, he just moved on to the next girl within like a day.

The point is he says stuff like that to a lot of girls - not just this one. He tries those kind of cliche lines with every girl and thinks that every girl likes him + is special, but he usually doesn't get anywhere.

As soon as he thinks a girl is available, he's straight on them.

I've spent the past 6 months learning to think about myself more and do what I want to do.

Why is it so wrong I want to be happy ?

Nothing wrong with you wanting to be happy, that's not what this is about. You're too emotional at the moment to understand the point Hobbit is trying to make, it seems.

You basically did the same thing to your friend. You might not see it at this point, but when things clear up you will realize this. You just put yourself in the victim-role because you feel hurt.

I was well aware of the similarities between the two situations, but, like I've stated, there are differences.

I was honest with my intentions and I never lied to anyone.

He has/is.

Trust is key for me + my friendships. I no longer trust him.

I know its tough but I would act indifferent and just beware that this guy is not your friend. I would act indifferent but if the conversation ever went that way sometime, where he was, for instance, proclaiming to be an honest person or claiming he was authentic I would call him on it.

Anyways, he is a hater/jealous type. If you think, this guy has a chance with your ex-girl - that's different. I would then find a way to cockblock - destroy his reputation with her (showing his dishonesty is the best way to destroy his rep because chicks generally do not like guys who are "not authentic" or "phony"; You can even just subtlely talk to your ex-gfs friends about this and they will help seal his fate. Girls usually rely on their friend's approval on men). But dont underestimate, other's people ability to see through your friend. If he is a two-sided a-hole, other people likely notice.

One thing Ive learnt over the years, is with every girl I have dated, I will completely disable the reputation of any of my so-called friends who I know are psuedo-players, haters, cock-blockers etc. I will slowly destroy their reputation so badly in my gf's eyes that I know that if our relationship ends she will never get with any of these guys. I, also, look out for girl's who are indifferent to dating friends of their exes. Call me old-fashioned but I think girls who date friends of exes are generally not as high-quality.

Anyways, just my two cents...

i don't see the problem.... why don't you just move on ?
you've done some shit and he has done some shit , you are both equally shitty ok so there is no reason to get some payback.

If you don't know what to do ... then Don't do anything - just ignore until you are less emotional

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