I just moved two hours away from my gf of a year and I have a feeling it is going to be very tough! Im not worried that we will break up Im just more worried about the stresses we will both be under? she spent every night at my house sleeping over and we spent a great deal of time togeather!

Any advice for me or stories about bad or good experiences you have had in LDR?

in my opinion
uve got no hope as 99% of LDR's do
but if u think shes worth it
stick with it
who knows u could be the 1

Hey Dark One,

You have responded to my questions, so I would like to take the time to chime in too. I'm 22 and just went through my first LDR. However, like most other stories this one also ended up not working and we broke up over 2 months ago. We dated most of senior year in college and decided to try the long distance (we were 5 hrs away by bus). We dated for 9 months, 3 of which were long distance.

I'm not trying to be a downer, but LDR's are definitely not easy. You have to both be able to survive on your own and it will test you because not being able to see your loved one whenever you want can be quite painful to endure. More importantly, you both need to be stable.

However, I am not saying that LDRs cannot work. I still have a bunch of friends who are in happy and healthy LDRs. From my recent experience I think you need to be a certain type of person to be able to endure a LDR. I really wanted to make mine work because this was the first girl that I truly loved. We ended up breaking up because we were not happy. I always felt that I cared about her more and she was not able to put as much of herself in the relationship and as a result felt guilty. She was emotionally unstable and couldn't end up handling the LDR so we parted ways.

If you want a LDR to work you have to REALLY want it and have some sort of end-goal in place (ex. Is she the one??), otherwise it will seem pointless. It's going to be tough due to a variety of reasons such as temptation and generally just missing your gf. It's not easy, but it's doable if you think it's the best choice.

Most people will prob say that it's best to find someone who lives in your city because you can't get what you really need from a LDR, unless you really know she's the one. Being realistic, it is important to recognize that it might not work out. But, if you really work at it and both of you really want it, you can do it. It's all about communication. Make sure you let each other know how you are feeling every step of the way. Good luck man, I know you will be fine either way!

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Actually LDRs are not bad. Here are two stories:

1) A friend of mine dated this girl for 3 years and then she moved to another city. He would talk to ever every day and it became a routine for them to talk for 1/2hr every day. It was like a part of their daily lives. Sometimes this would also end up in phone sex (He told me so, I wasn't listening, Lol !!). But the KEY was he would visit her on weekends, or she would visit him or they would plan to do something together, like a skiing trip or a game together regularly. After 2 years of long distance they got Married

2) Another guy I know met this girl at a party of a common friend. I had known the girl for 5 years and she is one those girls who would move through guys very quickly. They are now engaged after close to 2 1/2 years of long distance. He too would talk to her everyday on the phone. It was like he was a part of her life. And they would visit each other frequently. They both have high flying jobs so despite the difficulty they would still manage to go on trips and spend weekends frequently.

In both the examples the long distance thing was not more than 2 1/2yrs before they got engaged/married. So it definately could be worked out. Besides you are just 2hrs away. Sex is important and being a part of her daily life is important. Also making sure that you guys meet up every 8-10 days and do things together.

I beleve it will work because we both agree that we love each other and want to come day down the road get married. We also have been talking about moving in togeather at some point soon in order to be with each other.

I think perhaps if both people want it to work then it will and if one person does and the other doesnt it is doomed?