I'm making this topic because I'm currently in this situation and so was someone in Chat last night so I thought this might be worthwhile.

Do I go out with this girl, or do I fob her off to improve my game?

Well, this is only a question I can answer for myself, but for anyone else in this situation I can give you the options.

It all depends why you got into the game. If you got into the game to ram lots of girls, then bettering your game will help you to get better at your goal. However, if you think youy would rather the single girl than plenty - then I would suggest hitting up the girl.

However, if the genuine reason you got into the game was to bolster your chances of meeting the girls that you thought were unattainable; the really pretty ones that have a great personality (rare, which is why every little helps) and you think you have found one, then it seems rather simple. Why throw away a girl you have been looking for in order to better your chances of finding rare great girls when one is right in front of you?

But nothing is ever as simple as that.

What I am going to do, and suggest you would do if you are in two minds about this is:

See how it goes. Give her a chance, carry on as you would but don't commit, just see her.

Tell her you that you take the idea of a girlfriend very seriously - as you should! Tell her there is that you only go out with a girl unless you are 100% committed and want it. She will love this, if anything it will make her try harder, but the main thing is you are being honest and not messing her around whilst still being able to make your own decisions.

I am considering telling her I might also see some other girls at some point, or I might just not see other girls until I know what I want to do with the current one. What you do at this point is your choice. If you are seeing other girls though, tell her! Holding things back that you know she might not like is surely not a solid basis for a relationship. I'm not so sure how she would see that, some girls arecool with it, some girls are not, so that is why I think I will stop seeing girls apart from her.

I advocate honesty, all liars get caught out eventually. And if they don't, they are lying to themselves. Lying to yourself only shows that you don't respect yourself enough to tell the truth.

The age old question: If you could cheat on your girlfriend and she was guaranteed never to ever find out; would you do it? If you would, you're with the wrong girl.

Hope this is of use to people.

I went through a situation like this about a month ago, I'd opened an awesome girl in day game that I just wanted to spend more and more time with. I decided to give a relationship a shot and went different ways with the MLTR's I had at the time. It was good for about a month, and then I evaluated it all and decided that the emotional connection just wasn't there like it was in the beginning, and the relationship was becoming far too sexual.

The problem that arised from this is that by ending the relationship, I'm hurting the girl, and I just don't like hurting people, it's not why I got into this, this was to give other people awesome experiences. I ended the relationship and then helped her come through it and see it in a different way, I'm happy with how it turned out, but at the same time, I'm disappointed i hurt her. In a way, it's the better of two evils. Not knowing vs Hurting her.

I'm back gaming, which is awesome, and I learnt a lot from being in that relationship, after all - as soon as you find the one you want to be with, there's a lot more that goes beyond knowing how to convert her from an approach into a relationship.

My advice to you, give it a shot, but don't stay in it if it isn't working. Recognise that everything takes some work, but if you think you're missing something on the fundamental level, or you don't feel as in like, or more in like with her, then I'd suggest you go your seperate ways.

Hope this helps,
~JR*