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I've been seeing a girl for about 1-2 months. I'm going to be away for 3 weeks and I'm scared that the relationship might sort of fade out and die over that time.
What tips have any of you got? Should I call her and text her or wait for her to text me etc? What sort of mindset?
The thing is I'm leaving in 5 days and I was wondering what I should be like to her before I go, what should I do to keep her crazy about me over my trip? Should I joke about how much she'll miss me or what?
Any advice would be really good as I don't want this new relationship to die out thanks jack
**im currently in a long distance relationship right now so dont worry, do the right things and youll still be able to keep the fire going.
dont let it fade out, just because youre physically away doesnt mean that youre helpless in maintaining interest. use the distance to your advantage. this could be your opportunity to show her how creative you are.
but first, you gotta assess her interest level now. are you guys just dating? together and commited? whats the usual day to day interaction like? how often do you usually see or call or text each other? you gotta assess where its at, what the contact frequency is now and look for areas where you can make an obvious impact or obvious change. for ex: if your natural calling and text frequency is low, then here you can definitely show a change by taking it up a notch. theres alot of text game on the forum so just do a search to keep her thinking of you throughout the day, then switch it up with a call. remember to not respond right away though sometimes to keep things interesting.
**and remember, dont ever be afraid to test her boundaries and play with it. if she calls and texts and u dont respond for 30 mins, see her reaction, if nothing, next time make her wait 1 hour, if nothing make her wait 1.5 hours, etc. know her limit and keep her there** but u have to do this with discretion, u dont wanna do it too much
just remember to at least continue your natural contact by calling and texting to show her things havent changed even though youre far away.
try sending emails, try facebook/myspace messages, send her a cd or something (obviously something u created before leaving), try sending her a postcard from where u are, try sending flowers or something but emphasize its just because youre away, etc.
if you do your job right, she'll be feening for you to get back and intensify your relationship (and flirty phone sex will amplify this too if shes down for it, well actually...if shes not, u can train her for it hahahaah)
hope that helps a bit