Girlfriend:

Girl is a HB9, and 10 by her personality. she's extremely modest about her looks and overly body conscious. Personality wise she is funny and completely random, i.e. she'll just start asking random questions that have no relevance to anything. and she's mature for her age (were both 16)

Situation:

Her and I met about 3weeks ago at some gay Christmas function. Since then we've talked on the phone almost every couple of days, and she's opened up quite a bit to me. We've discussed the potential for a relationship and because im one schooling year ahead of her and i go into my final year it is a not right now for me. Her reason for not wanting to get into a relationship is that her last Boyfriend cheated on her with some slut before their first kiss, so she's become very cautious with guys. Yesterday i asked her out and she said yes.

Problem:

After asking her out she started asking me how many girls have i hooked up with, and the fact that the last time i hooked up i got with 2 girls in the one night, she didn't like this. Her response to this was that she thought i wasn't like that. What can i do to repair this?


My Efforts::

I've tried telling her that im only like that when i've had a bit to drink coz im self-confident (it's true) but with no avail. Im yet to try the idea given by Bimm3r.

let me know how it goes... also.. make sure you redo my speech a little bit.. you know better what she would want to hear

Yeah I've already redone your speech thing, do you think it would be possible to do it over the phone coz with Christmas, NYE and other stuff I got going.

Cheers

I just want to add: you should never ask a girl out via msn, as in start dating. not cool. lol. shows your not confident and man enough to ask in person

Also you should say that speech in person, everythings better in person because your body language will add to the meaning of your speech. If you absolutely can't, via phone should suffice.

goodluck mate, keep us posted!

Her response was: You see, I know you didnt know me when you acted like a man whore and went around hooking up with 2 girls in one night. And I know that most guys are like that when theyre not commited to anyone. But I just thought that you were different to them guys. And now to think that I have been so honest with you and trusted you so much, I just feel .. I dont even know how to explain it.

NB: 2 girls in one night isn't being a man whore

it is man whoring.. and dont say it on the phone man...

Meet up with her.. just show up at her work place or something.. if she dosent say yes...

Try again in some days...

no .. you are a dumb man whore ... you didn't ask money - you didn't charge the girls omgggggg

just tell her you was young and you was doing dumb shit, you have changed and you will never do stuff like that.

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I hate to be the bearer of bad news but after telling her that you hooked up with two girls in one night to a girl who was tramatized by her ex who cheated on her...she is putting you in the same boat as her ex.

Cut your losses short and move on.

Once a girl has her mind set on something its very difficult for you to change it. She has to make the change herself. So in this case you have basically told her that you view sex as something not special by hooking up with two girls in one night, and she views sex as something to be adorned. I would have NEVER told her that, at least not that early in the courting.

How many girls you hook up with is one of the only things you can lie to a girl about. Trust me girls lie all the time about how many guys they have been with to make them not appear like a slut.

You can't fix this. She has to fix it. Move on. Learn from you mistake and don't repeat it.

Best,

J-Dub

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yeah, great advice for the future, but im 16 and where im from hooking up is just a pseudonym for making out

I wouldn't bother trying to fix it, if she truly likes you she will see past it. The fact she knows you can easily get other girls will work in your favor, often times its jealousy that keeps a relationship alive.

Thanks Alpha Lion, best advice so far. She does truly like me and she has forgiven me, but we might not be getting together anytime soon due to her selflessness and my schooling commitments.