I just recently got a new girlfriend but right before we started going out she said what if we become "boring." I said if that happens than we break up, because thats what you do if you no longer want to be in a relationship and she said agreed..now how do I go about preventing our relationship from becoming boring? thanks guys

it's tough..I think all relationships struggle with it, at some point.

Availability plays a big role - you cant always be available to her.
Have your own life (i.e. maintain your friends, boys nights out etc)

Always push further in your career etc. Make sure your life keeps changing etc.

Dont always do the same dates- switch it up.

If your alpha, its easier to be not boring.

WackJacko already kind of said it all.. be sure to do other stuff.

You are not boring when you either:
- Have something to tell.
- Do stuff.

So make sure you do lot's of nice stuff with her, not too much it has to stay special but take her out to a beach, go visit some nice places etc..

If you have a real life next to hers as well you will do other fun stuff as well. Then you can tell her funny things that happend etc etc.

I always liked to watch series with my ex's... Watched lost, over there, house and some others with some girls... works. You can both talk and speculate about it and watch it together.

Good luck.

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Hi, I need your female opinion on this...

First you need to remember why she chose you in the first place... If you stop being that person six months down the road she will say something like 'You're not the same person as when we first met, etc.' or 'You have changed'.

This is a problem among PUA getting into relationships and it normally has a bad ending (meaning break-up).

The only suggestion I have for you is continue 'dating' your girlfriend. This is a lifelong endeavor. And by dating, that means you continue to do all the things and be the person that made her attracted to you in the first place. Maybe not as often but you should still make an honest effort to do it occasionally.

And above all else, talk to her. Remember you are not only her lover you are also her best friend (not the same as the 'Friend Zone' friend but you get it).

I admit, its hard work but then again nobody said it would be easy. In time you will be happy that you made that decision.

And if she asks you again 'What if things get boring between us' the correct response should have been "it will never be boring with you"...she is looking at you for reassurance and for you to fix things when things go awry. So man up, remember, you are still in control of the situation. If you don't then you will fail.

Best,

J-Dub

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J-Dub in DC

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