I've been dating this girl for about 2 months. Thing is, i wouldn't even call it dating since we barely see each other. It's pretty much like a long distance relationship except we're in the same city. I can tell she's stressed and bogged down by school which is why she said she couldn't see me often a month ago. Although, that doesn't justify that we can't see each other at least once a week. The thing is when I do ask her out, she'll say she can't that week. Next week she goes out with her friends.
Here's some background:
1) She's extremely independent, which is not a bad thing. Due to that independence, her ex-classmates/friends say that they're surprised she's dating someone.
2) It's very on and off between us. When she isn't as busy with school she's talkative and fun, and when she is then it's practically like talking to a stranger.
3) After seeing her a couple of times I asked her out and she agreed, but I haven't kissed her. I don't feel extremely attracted to anyone so it takes me a while to justify a k-close. This sounds like an excuse but it's just how I feel. (<--- this could be the problem)
4) Considering that she's brought up some of my girl friends and tested me, people tell me that this shows she doesn't have much trust in me. I also only call 1 or 2 times not early in the night so that could contribute to that thought.
5) She's cocky. She says that she will always be the one to break up with the guy, not the other way around.
I am not entirely sure what she wants at the moment. In the past 2 weeks when I text she won't respond. (Mind you, I've only texted her twice in those 2 weeks.) If I call at night and she misses the call, she'll text me the next morning with an apology. Recently I called her and I found out that I leave town the day she finishes her exams, to which she replies, "That sucks..." (it wasn't a sarcastic tone).
What I'm wondering about is if 5) is true, why hasn't she done so seeing how this has dragged on for almost 3 months. I understand the concept of an orbiter but I never pamper her unlike some of her other guy friends; therefore, I do not see how I could be used as an orbiter unless for attention. Even if I'm only being used for attention-sake, I don't see why she would waste her time talking to me. I have somewhat tested this when I called her once by remaining silent for a good 5 minutes, since we were both working. I expected her to hang up but she didn't.
I'm curious about her behaviour so I plan on bringing it up tonight, as well as seeing her either since I'm leaving town in a few days. She has exams though so I am not sure if bringing it up is a smart idea. I have brought up seeing her but she says she's busy and what not. Since I want to though, I'll try to see her and K-end this.
So, thoughts and opinions anybody? I have already done a freeze out for one week and it worked (incase anybody was gonna suggest it
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I apologize for the long read and thanks in advance for replying
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