Been seeing this girl for about a month or so now, she is a pretty legit and down to earth girl digs lot of the same stuff as me ect and we get along great except...

She has a ton of guy friends which Im fine with but the problem is when we go out or are around these guys I can tell they despise me and are jealous of the fact shes with me.

When I try to be friend them and bring about conversation i get the cold shoulder two or three word snaswer then a back turned to me. They all grop her in front of me like examplke, smack her ass, rub her back give very friendly hugs,e ct and she act as if this is no big deal and the norm.

I was at a bday party with her over the weeked of one of her girlfirends. I left the room for aminute and apon returning she was grabing on of the guys asses she calls a friend and play/flirting in a manner that made me a lil worried.

I said something to her once on the side and she got upset with me saying Im jealous and need to cut it out or its gunna ruin things.

Im worried I may acutally be that guy and could ruin this because of it, what is considered accpetable and not with a g/f actions amoungs friends like this.

I'd prob be way more accpeting of it if they guys were alil more interactive with me but just the body language and my own intuition tells me they have all the bad intentions with her that they can get if she lets them. This scares me as Ive been burn this way in the past..


I need some advice.

To me this seems way out of line. I mean smacking her ass? Thats blatantly disrespectful and it seems like they are trying to egg you on. It sounds like your g/f thinks its alright and just has more leniancy towards her guy friends and what they do together. I'd say to keep it on the d/l but if it keeps happening tell her how it makes you feel. Otherwise try not to let it get to you asides from the groping and ass smacking which I would not let fly any longer.

Hey.

The way you described it - she's flirting/touching other guys and vice versa? You have every right to be jealous about this. This is not a good sign, I'll tell you right away. Keep her under control (a leash maybe?) by talking to her about this. Just tell her how you feel. I know a month is not a long time for a relationship but you have to make it clear to her. Tell her that you don't want her to be all over other guys, because that's not the girlfriend you're looking for. Say that to her even if you don't mean it. However, do not threaten her in any way because that actually WILL ruin things.

Hope you get my point somewhat.

Good luck.

Ok, If i understood what u wrote, seems your girlfriend male friends have their eyes on her, and your girl playing naughty with her male friend's ass and she is not even sorry about her action and on top that she is reading the riot act to u , mmmm she got nerves lol .

Well buddy, take it easy and take a deep breath, these are some of the temptations that's suppose to make us stronger, first off your girl has been very disrespectful and exceded her limits and insensitive without due consideration to your feelings. I think u need a change of tactics about her unruly behaviour else u will get hurt in the long run, well I'm not against a girlfriend having male friends but that must also not be an excuse to insult my ego and loyalty whatsoever.

U really need to sound it to her hearings what u feel is acceptable to u an what is not, don't live in her reality but yours because if she does'nt repect the reality u live in then i don't see how u would respect hers. Have a relax conversation about it with her, Let her know u are not trying to control her life but her to recognise her limits in what ever she does and how she act. If she is reluctant to your appeal then I guess u need to re-consider if she would get anywhere with u or not, and leave her to her lots ( use the challenge method of "I'm not ready to put up with your nasty behaviour else u are history), stand your ground to earn respect man.
Like Magnum45 will always say " its takes so much more strenght to allow a girl to discover the wrong things to do in her life".

Regard the friends that gives u cold shoulder when u try to build rapport, No doubt they are trying to amog within their group, I guess u need to step up your act next time when in their mix, when they act funny or absurd, just keep your smily posture and seize a very good opportunity to get a heavy make out with your babe in their presence to signal your authority about her with out being rude to anyone, it works like charm and would earn u some respect from them and work your way up from there.

Goodluck buddy

I apprechiate the reply"s guys.

Yesterday I told her how it bothered me and went into detail on how I thought her and her friends actions were not something I considered appropriate.

She basically back lashed and told me she's not gunna be with someone whos jealous and that she doesn't even feel like trying anmore towards a realtioship becuase I'm not the type of guy she wants to be with. She said didn't even notice how her guy friends were being weird per say.

At that point i told her well If you would rather not try to be understanding of me and the point being made then we have no reason to talk anymore. I told her by and got off the phone.

Four hours later she was calling me trying to get me to come over and talk to her. I had previously offered to stop by and talk about things in person but she said she was busy, I told her that since she didnt want to hang out earlier that I was now too busy and got off the phone.

She called me a few times late rin the night before i finally answer and she asked me to come by today when I have time to talk to her and work things out. At this point I'm not even sure I want to bother but I will probably go just for my own sake. I know that I need practice in my approach and experssion of my feelings so even if shit goes sour its good pratice as I see it.

This was.... Brilliant! Good work man. From this point on, do as you feel. Go to her and try to resolve things or break up. Do what makes you feel better.

Great work, once again. Good luck!

Next time, set boundaries before this shit happens.

Firstly my friend, analyse why you're posting this thread on a pua forum. What is that you want from the community? and where is it you want to be with the opposite sex?

Once discovered, then you know exactly what to do with this girl.

Maintaining a relationship doesnt mean its the end of the game. From the sounds of your situation, you seem to take this relationship more seriousl than this girl. If I'm wrong, or you care to disagree due to her actions or dialogue. Just be wary, this can at times be her form of ASD.

Now you can look at it two ways. Either

A) She doesnt want to be in a serious as you do (i.e. with boundries and limits). In this case, cut your losses and move on with a slightly dented heart and ego.

or

B) You got yourself a girl who likes "playing" around with guys whilst in a relationship. Take this as a blessing! and do the same!

Build up your abundance, keep a large network of females constantly on tap, and flirt as much as you like.

I may be slated for this, or somone may disagree. But my personal opinion on relationships is simple. If she can do something, I can do exactly the same.

Over time, I've been in relationships where girls like to let me know of guys that have been after them, or studs they may have met. I've always found the best reaction is to do the exact samet thing. I go and find some hotter women lol.

I was at the stage once where i would try to sit and explain my emotions to women, about my jealousy over flirting or other guys. This dented my pride, and women seem to enjoy the attention and jealousy.

Since then, I am now in a very happy relationship with a HB9, who always gets attention. But after the 2years we've been together, she knows I get even more lol.

In simple buddy, you gotta be the prize. Being in a relationship doesnt mean its the end of the game. Perhaps once u have a ring on your finger, you may take a bow and the curtains can close. Till then, appreciate women and play as much as you can. Women like a man that can keep them on their toes. Someone that other women want. A jealous or restrictive type causes issues in a relationship. Even if its you just trying to let her know fo your emotions.

Let me know what u think.

I think your pretty much spot on in your reply. I was more worried about the realtionship working out than how much i liked the girl ect. I'm thinking that it mostly came from social presure from the family to stop "whoring around" as they put it.

I do per say like this girl alot but she still contests and trys to control the relationship which I let her do at first like a chump became total afc. It took posting here and my old wing mentioning something to me to even see it.

Things will change hopefuly the damage isnt already done.


I will say being single for three years then makin gi tknown ur in a relationship makes alot of girls you dated or slept with blow ur phone up being very forward with dirty intnentions. I kinda like it lol althou it could lead to me getting in trouble since my girl thinks its ok to try and use sex as a leverage for getting her way