*Sorry for the really long explanation, the key part is the last paragraph*

Hey guys, I'm finding myself in a bit of a tough situation here.

I've been seeing this girl for about 2 months now. When I first started working on her she out right told me that she want to "just be friends" (not sure if it was just a shit test) but I kept on with my game and said we were "just friends". (Keep in mind I've made it clear to her more than once that I don't want a relationship)

To make a long story short we went from LJBF to constant kino, cuddling, touching...stuff like that. All this was good and great, until I started noticing she was becoming clingy. She'd grab my phone and look thru me texts and ask me who girls were, ask me if I hanging out/ seeing other girls, and even getting a little upset because I work at night and spend most of my time with my friends.

So here's my dilemma: she supposedly doesn't want a boyfriend, and she knows I'm against the thought of a relationship right now. But she's becoming wayyy too attached to me. So I'm looking for some guidance on how to tell her either I think she's becoming to attached, or that I need space without it sounding too harsh (because I DO care about her). I love the physical and emotional side, but I feel as if she's becoming too emotionally attached for the type of relationship we have.

-Krazi

You can use the whole thing as a mega neg, telling her and being honest will knock her back, probably make her want you more but at the same time cause her to become less clingy/more awkward because she won't want to damage the relationship.

Alternatively, you tell her what's up and that you want a relationship otherwise this crap has to stop.

Seems like a situation to be honest in to me. She'll appreciate it.

I can't really see where else you want it to go, whether into an actual relationship or not.. I think you need to test the water first perhaps, find out how she feels about everything right now THEN tell her where you stand.

With only the details you've outlined I would choose the path of being very honest with her. When you two are alone and it's a good environment turn the conversation serious. Tell her that you have feelings for her and that you KNOW that she has feelings for you. Then see how she reacts. If her reaction is negative (which I doubt it will be) and she then tells people what you said, in her eyes and the eyes of whoever she tells, you stilled had the balls to tell her how it is. If she reacts positively then the ball is in your court and you can decide how serious you want to be. You could kiss her and see where the night goes or you could take it to a relationship level if you so choose.

Hope this helps.

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Thanks guys, I'm going with the straight up route. I've already kissed her, and I was a bit reluctant at first because I had this feeling it would make her more attached, and it did just that.

But yea, I'm thinking letting her know where I stand will help put thing back to where I'd like them to go. This whole situation is just different for me, so its weird. Haha

look up the grey area method, its the best way to keep it open without telling them directly that you want a f-buddy

If anyone knows where to find this, I'd appreciate the help. I think it could be a viable alternative to directly giving an SOI of a MLTR.