Hi there

Me and my girlfriend have had a relationsship of half-a-year. Several problems are now occuring. I think this is the well-known half-year crisis! Well...

1) I LOST MY ALPHA-FRAME. From the start of the relationsship I have had an alpha-frame. Me not being needy and ready to "leave" at any time kind-of frame. This frame has resulted in her being needy towards me and she has been more in love than me (at least showing it.) Always sending more texts and call more than me. I think I have been too much of an ass towards her and aprx 10 days ago she said this to me: "Do you have any feelings at all? When I insult you with jokes you're not getting sad, when I fight with you you don't show any anger, do you have emotions? I think you are cold!" This has resulted in increasingly insulting from her side, like "You are to dumb for me! (grinding)" "You have a small dick (laughing/smiling) "You are too kind (laughing/smiling)." etc. I don't like being insulted 5 times a day, so I told her today: "I think you are getting tired of me;)" She responded with getting all over me (kissing, hugging and eventually sex. I saw that she was scared.

HAVE I BEEN TOO MUCH OF AN ASS OR SHOULD KEEP GOING WITH THE BEING-COLD-FRAME?

2) LESS SEX. We see each other at school, but we are mostly alone during weekends. In the start of the relationsship (1-4 months) we had sex all the time. We have sex maximum twice a day now (when we are alone at weekends), and during a weekend sometimes only once?:( Is this normal or is this me being less sexually attractive. I think it's very hard to get her horny now than it was before. Should I cope with this or is something wrong here? I love having sex and this is important for me in a relationsship.

3) SHOULD I BREAK-UP BEFORE SHE DOES? I am def. more attractive to the other sex than she is. I can get prettier girls if I break up, but they can't match her personality at all. I am over the "honeymoon phase" and is less interested than before. She prolly feels the same way. We are only 19years old and our hormones are flying madly.

AFTER READING THIS POST? IF YA WERE ME, WOULD YA CONSIDER BREAKING-UP?

Today she said; "next weekend me and the girls are going to the city and have fun, drink etc. I will meet many hot guys you know (giggling and laughing)." I just ignored it and laughed it off. How can I respond to this? Im going out with the boys at another place, should I say the same back?

And another thing... when I went home she said she could sense that something was wrong. I just "ignored" it until some friends apperead. So I never really got to answer her comment.

Please comment, ANYNONE,

What you were doing was better than what you are doing. Stick with being unreactive, but you do have to change something since she said you're too cold. All these insults she throwing at you, she's testing how far she can go with insulting you to get some emotion out. Next time she insults you, sit her down and talk to her about it. If you cave into her bullshit, as in you show her more attention or being reactive in ANY WAY, she will continue to do what shes doing, because she'll think thats what she has to do to get attention.

Give her what she wants, but do it at different times than SHE wants. For example:

WRONG: she says ' you have a small dick'
you: NO ! ill fuck you so hard you'll climax 3 times before i do, that will prove i have a big dick.
This is wrong because you are reacting to negative comments, she will think this is what she has to do to get you to act a certain way

Right : she say ' i like your pants'
this is when you show emotion, forget about being alpha after she does something positvie that you like, reward her for doing something good, and shell repeat this good behaviour in the future to get you to act this way.

this is just an example, but that kind of 'training' works for everything
Even though this time she responded positively to this, you both did wrong here

you reacted to her shitty behavior, she might think continuing doing what shes doing will make you feel something

from her perspective, she did wrong by "getting all over me (kissing, hugging and eventually sex. I saw that she was scared." this will make you think that by saying things like that she'll give you sex

thats the begininng of a shitty relationship, you both have to work on your actions and their consequences

eventually, not anytime soon, if she continues doing what shes doing, out of the blue, NOT AFTER A BITCH FIT say that by being a passive aggressive bitch, shes not making things better, ask her what she wants ( we already know its emotion, and your giving it to her by having a talk like this, but like i said, continue give her emotion only as a reward to when she acts positively to you) and then tell her you'll do it, if she changes [being a bitch, and list whatever you want]

ps: when she says shit like shes going to hit on guys on the weekend, we know that that time it was her trying to force anger out of you, but thats just unacceptable. tell her you know what shes trying to do and that it wont fucking work, if you want me to act a certain way dont act like a psychotic passive aggressive whore, if you dont want to be exclusive anymore, thats fine with me, ill just cross you off the list.

Thanks for the response!

Im going to reward her and show emotions when she behave nice, and keep ignoring her when she's behaving bad.

So I shouldn't mention what she said earlier today: "next weekend me and the girls are going to the city and have fun, drink etc. I will meet many hot guys you know (giggling and laughing)." at all? I shouldn't tell her that Im going out too?

nah, id say: 'im going out friday night, dont have plans for saturday yet, so lets hang out in the afternoon'