I agree with this- tell her how she makes you feel just by being her amazing self. Just say things like "You make me laugh/smile/happy" or "yesterday I was thinking about you when you do (whatever she does which you think is cute) and it just instantly brought a smile to my face which I couldnt get rid of"

Great help again guys, thanks:)

When we do have sex, we both take turns initiating. Usually me more though. And I always make sure she has an opportunity to orgasm. It really doesn't take her long to reach climax. We have never found her G-spot, but she does orgasm regularly. Another problem is our sex sessions rarely go past a half hour. Usually only about 10-15 minutes. Do you guys have any ideas for ways to increase the time spent having sex?

"And again women are extremely competitive and compare themselves harshly to other women. They always think there is someone hotter, nicer, smarter, thinner, etc out there than them. I can't really explain it any further."

If a woman has found herself an alpha male, wouldn't she not feel the need to compare herself with other women?

Thanks

Make sure there is a lot more foreplay and tease each other for a while longer before actually having sex. Just before you feel you're about to come, pull out and tease each other a bit more and then continue.

If a woman is a jealous and insecure person, she is always going to be no matter how alpha her boyfriend is. I don't have that problem because I am not a jealous person. My ex boyfriend was an AFC and my current boyfriend is a PUA. I felt secure and safe with both of them. I have a friend who has been in similar situation - ex was AFC, current is PUA and she is a very insecure and jealous person and even though her current boyfriend is the most alpha guy you can get, she still feels insecure and that he might leave her at any time.

It is not possible to "cure" women like this- their insecurities and jealousies come from within themselves and they are the only ones who can fix this. Not their boyfriend, not their friends or their parents. No-one.

gfopua - thanks for your great insight!

Teasing her is a great idea. I actually teased her today. This is what happened on the phone:

Her: Baby, I want to make out tonight

Me: I don't know, have you been a good girl today? (playfully said)

Her: Of course, I always am! (playgully said)

Me: Bummer, I was hoping you were going to say bad, so I can spank you (playfully said)

Her: Babe!

I am hoping little situations like this will get her in the mood earlier in the day so it won't be such a challenge later in the day.

I'm on the 870 bandwagon on this one. In the particular setup you described, it seemed you broke the mood.

If a girl is talking dirty to you, lighting candles and preparing the bedroom is not an appropriate match for the mood.

In extended relationships you will naturally have sex less often. Fact of life. That being said, what I have found works pretty well for keeping up the sexual tension in our relationship, and thus the frequency of sex, is whenever my girl flirts or hits on me, I play-act like I'm not interested at all.

"Right NOW!? But It's 5:30pm, 5:30pm is HARDLY the time of day to be getting kinky. Can you get back to me around, say, 6:23, I think I have a 15 minute time slot available I could fit you in?"

By fake-pretending we are not interested in each other, it makes it a sort of play-challenge to get the other person to be interested/have sex with us - even though we know at the end of the day SOMEONES getting laid.

Not sure this will help, but it is what works for me.

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Let her chase you and want you. if she's stroking ur dick pull over and rip her cloths off and submit her once she's in the MOOD! Do the nasty i dont care where!! it'll also add in a lil variation yadadamean? itll increase ur frequency of sex.

Girls have crazy fantasies too. don't bore her.

That sounds like a really good idea!

Question,

How often do you play-act like you aren't interested?

Thanks