Because of retarded situations that I happened to set up for myself in the past my girlfriend is having a difficult time realizing I am the one in control now. Regardless of what it was in the past.

On friday we made plans for saturday.

Anyway, on friday she decided to argue with me about my ex girlfriend.

Saturday comes around, and although I figure she might be mad at what happened the previous night, I don't care- if you make plans, you follow through on them, I call at the time i'm supposed to arrive at her house, no answer.

I had things to do, so I did them, called a couple hours later to find out she decided to spend her day out somewhere else.

I told her if she's gonna cancel plans either tell me or don't make plans at all
blah blah blah argument
commence freezeout.

I understand that she might have difficulty with the transition of me from 'balls in a vice' to me being in control of the relationship, and i'm aware that there are going to be arguments, but, i'm just wondering, when do i draw the line and just dump her?

please note:
flaking is unacceptable. i take this as a big deal. for those of you who disagree, let me show you why:

flaking shows that you don't really give a fuck about the person who is making time in their day for you
flaking shows that you have better things to do
and, flaking WITHOUT even having the balls to tell the person just makes you someone who's too much of a pussy to deal with the problems that will arise with flaking.

for her to think it's okay to demonstrate that? well...
just goes to show how much being a major afc-even for a short amount of time- fucks up a relationship

yes, that's right, you leave apologetic voicemails on my phone.
lmao...

you are completely right about your attitude towards flaking. however, you have to let her know how you feel about flaking, not only us.

my advice: let her know that your angry and you want to talk to her asap. make sure you talk face to face and not on the phone, computer, etc.. sit her down and tell her that what she did was completely unacceptable. tell her if she does it again, you will break up with her. also, tell her that what you were planning to do on saturday with her, you are now going to do with another friend (eg, if you were going to see a baseball game, tell her she missed her chance and now you will see it with someone else). even when she apologizes and begs you to take her, stand your ground and go with your friend. she will learn her lesson.

remember, its ok to be upset but always remain calm..dont yell, simply talk in a serious tone, otherwise you'll be hurting yourself even more.


ps - whatever you do, dont return her apologetic voicemail with an "its ok"

give up and roll out

I know i seem harsh, but youre going to find someone that doesn't do stupid stuff

I've said this so many time is this section that if you search for roll out you'll find a million posts from me