I need a confidence builder here.

I'm been semi-friend zone with this girl that I like for 4 or 5 months now.

We made out pretty good once, but then I fumbled on a follow up date and it was awkward.

Anyway, we hung out again this weekend and I got mixed signals.

So, I just kinda said fuck it, I'm going to pursure her a bit and let my feelings known until I get an answer.

I talked her into a date tonight a little AFCish, but made her laugh with my follow up texts.

Now, for the first time in a long time I'm nervous about this damn date.

Heavy Metal to relax? Pre game with a beer? Why? Why am I a semi-wreck? Do I really like her and I'm afraid to let myself feel that?

That and she's a friends ex from 8 months ago. He knows we hang out but not that we made out.

Tell me I look spectacular and will get laid or something. Help.

You're date probably happened already but here's what I usually do when I get nervous before heading out for a date. I usually just put on my favorite artist/band and relax to that while getting dressed into clothes that I'm really confident in wearing. Believe it or not, after that I'm usually in a lot better mind frame and I'm good to go.

Either way, let us know what happened!!

I always always always play my fav songs about being good with girls - "Bumble Bee" by Aqua, "I like girls" by Hound Dogs... haha... really silly, but I sing them and I believe it's me, and I have experience to back it up, and I know I have the potential even if the experience wasn't there.

Also you should be building attraction. You don't let your feelings known unless it's going to build attraction. That always comes first. Try and remember when it's been the other way around. Or if it hasn't, then try to imagine. Once someone lets on that they like you, and you are not interested in them, you immediately feel like you have to start distancing yourself.

If you really like her, don't change a thing. Why would you change what's been attracting her in the first place. Invite her out with friends. Take her to see a show that you told her you think she might be into. Don't meet up just about seeing her. Show your feelings through having a fun time with her.

Well she was pretty ill (flu) and had a rough day.

I'm surprised she came out with me. She obviously wanted to.

She told me things like I'm glad you called cause I needed to feel better. When I joked about pretending to be clueless newlyweds she said she would do that with me anytime. That took the tension off and it was really relaxed actually.

A bit of touching, standing close and hugs, we always do that. I'm starting to feel flu-ish today even though we avoided facial contact. Ugh.

I do need reminded not to reveal my feelings unless I'm sure she has them too. I don't know... I do that and have done that before and it's stupid. When she told me she likes me, etc.. I did not reciprocate anymore then a charming smile and thanks.

So, I think it's looking up. I'm going to try and escalate this through my actions.

My instinct here is... she kind of likes me but we are both unsure because we have been hurt before and have those limiting beliefs. I need focus cause I'm getting more and more comfortable with her and I'm ready to go for it.

Your in pretty good shape. She was pretty sick and she still decided to come out with you. That right there shows she has some interest!