I've been in a relationship now for a couple of months and things are going really well. Before I got into the relationship I was hooking up with another girl. She went away for the summer, and that is when I met my current girlfriend. But now, summers over, and the first girl is coming back.
I don't want to cheat on my gf, but I would like to keep the first girl available in case things don't work out with my girlfriend in the future. If I meet her she will expect sex, so I don't want to meet her. If I tell her I have a gf, I might lose her completely. What can I say to the first girl when she calls me to keep her in the loop?



FYI, I like my gf..there's no current problem w/our relationship.

Quit worrying and enjoy what you have, dude. You're so focused on what might happen in the future you're not even giving your girlfriend a fair chance.

Other fuck buddies will make themselves available later if things don't work out. Totally not necessary to cling to the familiar ones

Your boy,
870

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1. Dont be a shity bf...IMO you dont deserve your gf if you are thinking about cheating on her. Is it normal to do this? yes but If you are thinking like this then do you gf a favor and break things off so you dont hurt her...take this as positive criticism, how would you feel if she said the same about you? or cheated on you? treat a women how you would want to be treated.

870: as usual, ur right, thanks man


dark one: please read the post before making a comment, i explicitly said that i do NOT want to cheat on my girlfriend...not even thinking about it...but thanks for making me look like a "shity bf"

Listen bro Im not trying to be a dick Im trying to help...If you have to keep a girl on the side just in case then there is a good chance that your relationship is doomed...could I be wrong? of course but let me ask you somthing? If your gf knew you were keeping a girl on the side "just in case" so you think she would be happy? or even want to stay with you? I am a guy so yes I understand your thinking but like I said IMO it still is not right. I dont think your a bad guy I just think your a guy...a guy with two balls and a penis who doesnt want to loose a hot lay...the grass is always greener on the other side man.

ok man. thanks for clarifying. and your right, i should put everything i got into my relationship w/my girlfriend

..the thing is, when this other chick comes home, shes going to call me. keep in mind that although we were never boyfriend/girlfriend we had a significant relationship before she left. so, wats a good way to let her down gently? (for example, tel her i have a gf now, tell her i just want to be friends, etc..)

Speaking from experience the best way to get rid of an old flame or fuck budy is to just stop talking to them...dont explain your self unless they ask and when or If she does ask just tell her your gf wouldnt be comfortable with you two being in contact with each other...just like you wouldnt want your gf to talk with one of her old falmes or fuck budies.

I had a girl who I dated/fucked for about 2 months and she was a really cool girl! and very good looking...well when I met my gf I still was very attracted to this girl and I found my self dwelling on the great sex we had, and how she was a fun girl ect ect...well my gf found out that I still kept in contact with her and was very upset...what did I do? I deleted this girl from my phone and stoped talking to her all togeather. Honestly I dont even think about that girl anymore because I know now that it was just lust...it was all about sex with that girl. This was about 7 months ago before my gf and I were serious but now Im am glad I cut this girl out of my life because she could have ruined the best thing in my like my gf.

When your in a relationship there are sacrifices you have to make just like she will have to make them for you.

If you want to keep her around be friendly to her not sexual.

Treat her like a friend/ flirt with her, but never cross the line.

I'm in the same situation as you. >_>

I'm going to the football game with a girl but my girlfriend is the one cheerleading etc. Lol

So... This is a little risky. >_>

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