Hey.

I need some help.

I've been with my gf for nearly 1 year now and we still have not had sex.

We fool around in my car, but we never get all the way.

We've spoken about it, she said she'll have sex when she's ready, and she doesn't want to loose it in a car.

I'm pretty sure she's ready - she's just waiting for the right place..
Where would be the best place for a girl to feel comfortable in loosing it?

Almost every girl, regrets their first time. The key I think would to be sensative with that and try not to push her into anything.

In fact play the PUA game just like normal. When she tells you she can't, or not right now. Do a "freeze out".
Tell her you respect her decision to wait. Get up out of bed and leave the room and go do something, (anything) else.
She will soon realize she is more uncomfortable with loneliness then the progressive state of your affections. Inevitably, she will call you back, or possibly feel embarrassed and apologize. If she asks why you don't want to fool around anymore, you tell her "I don't want to put you into a postion where you might compromise your standards. I respect those standards and you, and when you say you want to hold off, I will hold off."
This sort of routine sets the stage for a lot of comfort and rapport. She will feel safe with you, and evolutionarily speaking, women will mate with those men who make them feel safe. They want to know that if they invest themselves into a sexual relationship, that their mate will protect them and their offspring.


Cheers
Jonas

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First off how old are you?

I would recommend suprising her with a weekend away to a nice hotel...stay for the night, take her out for a nice dinner, and wright her a nice letter telling her about how much you care about her and how much you love her (as long as you really do?). Dont expect sex but rather make her feel loved, comfortable, and safe....If you take her to a nice hotel or bed and breakfast she will prob be a little less up tight about it.

Also pick up some nice wine or her favorit drink because it will help her loosen up so she not so nerves! dont get her wasted but just have a drink or two so shes not so tense and nerves.

Now this is somthing I have found many women strugle with...their bodies. Make sure the lighting is dim or the light are off because she might feel weird about how she looks the first time or what she is doing...If the lights are out it makes it easy for her to relax.

Finaly...take it easy on her, be slow and dont go for hours...I have not been with a virgin but I can promise you her first time will be painful and not as enjoyable as you would think...also cuddle with her after and make her feel loved so its not a negitive experience.

bed+candles

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+1 for the tips. I've done that before, but it wasnt getting up and leaving, it was just re-assuring that im not forcing anything.. She kinda paused and i could see that she was thinking about it.

I need to borrow an empty house. lol.
Nearly 19.. This isn't my first time either.
Romantic, but we both still live at home. I'm never home alone to do anything like that and she isn't either. I think the hotel idea screams adultery/prostitution. lol.

The best plan might really be to save up about $100 and get a hotel room with room service and things like that...
Go to the hotel ahead of time and make it beautiful with roses, and candals and what not.
Maybe leave a romantic series of clues to get her to the hotel. So she gets there with a sense of attraction, curiosity, and passion for you.

You definetly need to show her that you are a high-value male who can support, challenge, and provide for her.

Personally, I might invest in some KY just for her. You don't want her to feel like you "tore her a new one".

Finally, provide a back-up-plan. Get a deck of cards together and play card games, or order some take-out and watch jeapordy like old couples do. Make sure you let her know that sex is not the reason you brought her there. You are just happy to be with her.

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